Sexiness For Muslimahs Too???

A German lingerie store called "Liaison Dangereuse (Dangerous Liaison) has a controversial commercial out with a woman getting dressed in some provocative (but cute!) lingerie... It has Arabian influences in the music and undertones...

Check it out and let us know what you think about it. Do you find it offensive?

Najwa & Nadira
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The Fort Hood Killings... Crazy... or Not???

On Thursday, November 5th, 2009 a soldier at Fort Hood Military Base in Texas opened fire killing 12 people and wounding 30 others. The suspect in this case is Major Nidal Malik Hasan.

Hasan was reported to have been wearing his uniform when he opened fire, said Col. Steven Braverman, hospital commander at Fort Hood. Braverman said Hasan had received orders to deploy to Afghanistan.

The shooting occurred in a building called the readiness center, one of the last stops before soldiers deploy and one of the first places soldiers go upon returning to the United States.

Some of the victims were headed to Iraq or Afghanistan, said Col. Benton Danner.

A federal official said Hasan is a U.S. citizen of Jordanian descent. Military documents show Hasan was born in Virginia and has never deployed outside the United States. Read more of this story here.

As it has been reported, Major Hasan is an American-born Muslim who was born and raised here in the U.S. He apparently was being deployed to Iraq and he was trying to get out or the military because he did not believe in the war and he did not want to have to go to fight in Iraq or Afghanistan.

Story taken from www.cnn.com

This made me think.... being a Muslim, I know that I would never be able to go to fight against my fellow Muslims either. To kill a Muslim is a grave sin in Islam. To kill innocent people is also a sin. What do you think about this tragic story? Do you think Major Hasan was taking a stand against fighting and killing more innocent Muslim families in Iraq? Do you think what he did was wrong? Did he have P.T.S.D. (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)? Can you understand his reasoning behind this???

Najwa & Nadira
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The Kaabah: The One Place on Earth Not Destroyed in '2012'

What even Roland Emmerich won't destroy: an Islamic landmark

In Roland Emmerich's upcoming global demolition derby movie 2012, the director gets to indulge his passion for destroying landmarks on a world scale.

In previous movies, he's destroyed the Empire State Building and the White House (Independence Day), sent a giant monster into the middle of Manhattan (Godzilla), blown away the famous Hollywood sign and the Capitol Records building in Los Angeles (The Day After Tomorrow) and savaged New York again by flooding and then freezing it (also The Day After Tomorrow).

In 2012, he takes on landmarks in Rome, Rio de Janeiro and, yes, Washington, but there is one place even he couldn't bring himself to obliterate. We caught up with Emmerich in Jackson Hole, Wyo., where he told us why he chose various landmarks to lay waste in 2012, and about the one that got away.


"I always like I think when it feels very new and original," Emmerich said, adding: "Landmarks are always symbols, just symbols. ... They stand for something."

Obviously.

This time around, he has a giant wave striking it. A wave carrying the aircraft carrier John F. Kennedy.

"I think my favorite in this one is like the White House destruction," he said. "I didn't want to go there again, and [co-writer/producer] Harald [Kloser] pretty much convinced me that I have to. And then I was brooding for days and days and days, and then I kind of had the idea: ... I've got JFK kind of coming back to the White House, which I thought was ironic."

The Poseidon



Well, not really. It's a cruise ship that rolls over much like the ill-fated ship from The Poseidon Adventure and its recent remake.

"The most striking image for me of any disaster movie was when the ship in Poseidon Adventure rolls over," Emmerich says. "I pay homage to that. ... For me it's always the most striking image of all the disaster movies. Because it's a really big object that rolls over."

The Sistine Chapel in the Vatican



That includes the famous frescoed ceiling by Michelangelo depicting Adam touching fingers with God.

"I always try to come up with what makes sense for the story, you know?" Emmerich says. "And it's not only about the destruction. It has to kind of stand for something. One of my favorite pieces of art is Michelangelo's Sistine Chapel: ... God ... reaches out to Adam, and the crack goes through it. It's just an interesting kind of notion."

St. Peter's Basilica in the Vatican



"Why ... don't [we] have the church fall on people's head?" Emmerich said. He added: "The whole Vatican kind of tips and kind of rolls over the people. It said something, because in the story, some people ... believe in praying and prayer, and they pray in front of the church, and it's probably the wrong thing, what they would do in that situation."

Christ the Redeemer statue in Rio de Janeiro

"Because I'm against organized religion," Emmerich says.

... and the one that got away...


Emmerich said that he got approached by people who wanted their landmarks destroyed, such as the 101 Tower in Taipei, the world's tallest building (pictured below).

But Emmerich was thinking of something even more explosive: the Kaaba, the cube-shaped building at the heart of Mecca, the focus of prayers and the Islamic pilgrimage called the Hajj; it is one of Islam's holiest sites.

Really?

"Well, I wanted to do that, I have to admit," Emmerich says. "But my co-writer Harald said I will not have a fatwa on my head because of a movie. And he was right. ... We have to all ... in the Western world ... think about this. You can actually ... let ... Christian symbols fall apart, but if you would do this with [an] Arab symbol, you would have ... a fatwa, and that sounds a little bit like what the state of this world is. So it's just something which I kind of didn't [think] was [an] important element, anyway, in the film, so I kind of left it out."

-Article taken from www.scifiwire.com

Written by: Patrick Lee

So, what do you think the producer's REAL reason is for not destroying the Kaabah in his movie? Is he afraid of a "fatwa"? Did he really think that the Kaabah wasn't important? Does he have some other unkown reason??? What do you think about this article overall?

Handheld Bidets, Instinja and the Like...

First things first... Muslimah2Muslimah had a question from a sister who is a new revert to Islam and she was wondering how to make istinja' and what to use for it... Some people use water bottles, some use a watering can, others just have a cup near their toilets. In the states, bidets are not a common thing that you see in people's homes or even out in public areas. However, there are handheld bidets that are available at Home Depot or even Walmart for a very low price. This is my personal favorite way to make istinja'. You do not have to constantly fill a container up with water every time you need to use the restroom and you can also control the water pressure. So awesome!

Now, down to the more basic stuff: What Is Istinja'???

Istinja' is performed using pure and purifying water or a solid, dry material, like a stone or paper. It is obligatory to make istinja' from every wet material emitted from the eliminatory outlets, such as urine or feces. It can be done by using water, rocks, paper and the like.

When performing istinja' by water, cleaning oneself from feces one pours the water on the outlet and rubs with one’s left hand until the najas-filth is removed. This makes the place tahir (pure).

When performing istinja' using rocks and the like (paper), if one makes instinja' using a solid, dry material, such as a rock (or paper), one wipes the outlet three times. If the three wipes are not enough to clean the area, one wipes more until the place becomes clean. One may use three wads of tissue or the like. Without using water, it is not enough to wipe less than thrice, even if the place becomes clean.

Also, it is recommended to enter the bathroom with the left foot, and to leave it with the right foot; contrary to the way you enter your home or the masjid. It is recommended (sunnah) to enter your home or the masjid with the right foot first, and to leave with the left foot.

It is recommended (sunnah) upon entering the bathroom to say:

"Bismillah. Allahumma inni a'udhu bika minal-khubuthi wal-khaba’ith."

Which means: “[I enter the bathroom] with the Name of Allah. O Allah, I
seek refuge with you from the male and female devils.” This provides protection from the eyes of the jinn.

After leaving the bathroom, it is also recommended to say:

"Ghufranak. Al-hamdu lillahi-lladhi adh-haba annil-adha wa afani."

Which means: “I ask You (Allah) for forgiveness. Praise and thanks be to the One (Allah) Who took the harm away from me and granted me good health.”

So... what do YOU use for Istinja??? Do you live in a country where bidets are common? Do you just use a water bottle? Do you use the most common one that I have seen in Muslim homes... the watering can? This is very random, I know... but interesting nonetheless! LOL.

As-Salaamu Alaikum!

Najwa & Nadira
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So, Why the Heck Are All You Guys Wearing A Pink Hijab Today??

Okay, so today was Pink Hijab Day (yay!). So, as always there are the skeptical

"I-only-wear-black-because-it's-Sunnah-and-I-don't-see-the-point-in-doing-something-that-is-not-sunnah-and-that-type-of-thing-is-bid'ah"

crowd. Then, there are the ones who say;

"what is being gained by me just wearing a pink hijab? What point is that going to make? Who is benefiting from that? Why not just give money?"

Well... to these people we say this: What is wrong with helping to spread awareness about a certain cause? What is wrong with unifying Muslims on one day to not only give da'wah about Islam but also to put a smile on someone's face? Many men and women not only wore pink hijabs, pins or ribbons but also went to cancer treatment centers, did a charity run/walk, donated money and helped to raise money for many different cancer victims around the globe.

Islam is all about charity, kindness and compassion. If you showed your kindness today by doing anything such as making a du'a or giving in charity or just showing your support by wearing something pink this month for any woman in the world or any family who is dealing with cancer then may Allah reward you with Jannah-tul-firdaus! Ameen.

Narrated by ‘Aishah Allah’s Messenger said:

“Allah is Kind and He loves kindness, and confers upon kindness which He does not confer upon severity, and does not confer upon any thing besides it (kindness).” (Sahih Muslim)

Najwa & Nadira
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Send Us Your Pink Hijab Pics!!!

This is a reminder to all of our readers to support Pink Hijab Day tomorrow whether it be at school, work or just running errands.

We also want all of you to send in your photos of you and your friends wearing your pink tomorrow or anytime this month at: mail@muslimah2muslimah.com.

You will be featured in an upcoming Muslimah2Muslimah.com blog!

Happy Pink Hijab Day!

Najwa & Nadira
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Rock It or Stop It: Keffiyah/Hijab

One of the latest style trends is wearing Keffiyahs. They have become a fashion staple that both men and women are wearing around the world. You see them everywhere and all over the runways as in the Balenciaga images below.

So how do you wear the keffiyah as a hijab and make it look cute? There are quite a few keffiyah tutorials on YouTube such as the one below(were you can wear the keffiyah by itself).

Or you can wear a keffiyah/scarf along with your khimar as the images below

So what do you think of the keffiyah look for a hijabi?  

ROCK IT OR STOP IT?

COMMENT AND LET US KNOW WHAT YOU THINK

Asalaamu alaikum

Nadira & Najwa

Muslimah2Muslimah 

Response to Ban on Niqab by Sh. Said Rageah

****INSHA' ALLAH TAKE THE TIME TO WATCH THIS ENTIRE VIDEO AND TAKE A STAND AS A MUSLIMAH****

Khutbah addressing the issue of a Canadian Muslim organization urging the Canadian government to ban the Niqab. Please pass this on to all the Muslims.

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Toronto (AP) - A Canadian Muslim organization urged the Canadian government Thursday to ban traditional Muslim garments designed to cover a woman's face, saying they are medieval and misogynist symbols of extremism with no basis in Islam.

To Niqab or Not to Niqab......that is the question

I have recently been thinking a lot about wearing niqab. I have worn niqab a few times here and there in the past but I have never made a commitment to it. The times when I did where niqab I have always felt very comfortable and at peace. I think niqab is absolutely beautiful and have a lot of respect for women who choose to wear niqab for the sake of Allah. May Allah reward them- ameen.

I don't personally think that NIQAB is fard(obligatory) but what I do know is that we should try to do things that the prophet(s.a.w.) and the companions did. Following this logic it only makes sense that we should want to do what the Ummul Mu’mineen, the wives of the prophets did. We can see examples of them observing niqab in the following hadiths.

Narrated by Aisha (RA) who said, "The riders would pass us while we were with the Messenger of Allah ). When they got close to us, we would draw our outer cloak from our heads over our faces. When they passed by, we would uncover our faces." (Hadith-Abu Dawud)

Narrated by Aisha(RA)"When (the Verse): 'They should draw their veils over their necks and bosoms,' was revealed, (the ladies) cut their waist sheets at the edges and covered their faces with the cut pieces." (Hadith-Al-Bukhari)

I do wonder how I will navigate in my day to day life i.e. work, shopping, eating out, etc. For now I'm still doing my personal searching to see what my decision will be.

Please share your comments and experiences be you a sister who wears niqab, who doesn't/wouldn't or anywhere in between.

Asalaamu alaikum,
Nadira
Muslimah2Muslimah

*****CORRECTION EARLIER POST HAD A TYPO, IT STATED THAT "HIJAB IS NOT FARD", IT SHOULD HAVE SAID NIQAB, WE AT MUSLIMAH2MUSLIMAH FULLY BELIEVE THAT HIJAB IS FARD*****

Okay, So He's An Attractive, Single Muslim Brother...

I wonder if he is single or is he married? Is he a match for me? Wouldn't we make such a dashing Muslim couple!?!?

This a dilemma many single Muslimahs have quite often. However, society tells us that the man should approach the woman, or in Islamic standards, the Wali. What about the Muslimahs who spot a brother she is interested in? Do they just sit back and pray that he makes the move?

During the days of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW), women approached men quite often for marriage. As a matter of fact, it is noted that when he was 25 years old, Muhammad (SAW)received a marriage proposal from a wealthy Meccan woman, Khadījah bint al-Khuwaylid, whose affairs he was conducting.

But nowadays it seems rather taboo for a sister to approach a brother regarding marriage. So, what is a sister to do???

What are YOUR opinions on this? Would you approach a brother you were interested in? If so, how would you go about doing it? Would you send your wali after him?

Najwa & Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

Quote of the Day!!

"Always keep in mind, sisters, that ultimately ALLAH (swt) is the only judge... Strive to do the best you can for HIM and HIM alone. Keep your head up when people try to criticize but always keep an open mind to the things that people say. It might help you to improve yourself..."

- Muslimah2Muslimah

"The Early Morning After..."

Okay, so this one is for all of us married girls out there... You and your hubby had *fun* last night and now it is time for Fajr prayer... So, you get up, take a shower, make wudu and make salat. Cool... all is well right? You have done your duties for your husband and your Lord... now you can go on about your day. Well, not so fast there, sister! Did you take a shower or did you make a ghusl? A ghusl is the purification that is obligatory after intercourse.

How Ghusl Is Performed:

According to the practice of the Prophet, upon whom be peace, the correct manner of performing ghusl is:

1. wash both hands three times,

2. wash the private parts,

3. make a complete wudu (ablution) like the one made for prayer.

4. rub water through one's hair three times, letting the water reach down to the roots of the hair, (yes, girls...this means ruining that perfect hairdo!)

5. pour water over the entire body, begining with the right side, then the left, washing under the armpits, inside the ears, inside the navel, inside the toes and whatever part of the body can be easily rubbed. This account is based on the following report from 'Aishah:

"When the Prophet, upon whom be peace, took his bath after
sexual intercourse, he would begin by washing his hands. Then he would
pour water from his right hand to his left and wash his sexual organs,
make the ablution for prayer, take some water and put his fingers to the
roots of his hair to the extent that he sees that the skin is wet, then
pour water over his head three times and then over the rest of his
body." -Related by al-Bukhari and Muslim.

Ghusl For Women:

A woman performs ghusl just as a man does, except that if she has plaited hair she does not have to undo it, provided that the water can reach the roots of her hair. Umm Salamah said,

"O Messenger of Allah, I am a woman who has closely plaited hair on my head. Do
I have to undo them for ghusl after sexual intercourse?" He said, "No, it is
enough for you to throw three handfuls of water on your head and then pour water
over yourself. After doing this, you shall be cleansed." Related by Ahmad,
Muslim and at-Tirmidhi

So, considering the fact that we all have to wash our hair COMPLETELY with water on "the early morning after", what should we, as Muslimahs do with our hair? Should we blow hundreds of dollars on our hair like many of us may have done during our single days just to ruin it the same night? Do we always have a low-maintenance (and less sexy) ponytail? Do we shave our heads? Anyhow, that is OUR rant for the day... What is YOUR ghusl rant?

Najwa & Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

Hijabi Recessionista: Pink Hijab Day

A perfect outfit for pink hijab day with out going overboard with the pink. A few cute accessories i.e. pink brooch, pink/gray lace gloves, pink and gray bracelets, etc. The gray ruffle abaya can be found at Bint Qamar.

Send us your pics of you and your friends & family wearing your pink on October 28th, 2009, and we will post them on our website. Insha' Allah email us at mail@muslimah2muslimah.com

Muslimahs Unite!

Let us know what you think of the outfit & don't forget to send you pics of you and your pink hijabs!

Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

Global Pink Hijab Day!!!

Pink Hijab Day is intended to shatter stereotypes of Muslim women, as well as raise awareness and funds for breast cancer research. All over the world, Muslims participated by wearing pink hijabs, pink ribbons, and donating to breast cancer foundations.

We here at Muslimah 2 Muslimah feel as though this is a great cause and also a great chance for Muslimahs all over the world to unify and support each other. Those of us who may have someone in our lives who has suffered with breast cancer or those of us who just want to support can do so on October 28, 2009.

Pink Hijab Day Frequently Asked Questions:

Q:How did Pink Hijab Day Start?
A. Pink Hijab Day began small, in a high school in Columbia, MO. A group of girls decided to wear pink hijabs one day to encourage others to ask questions about their hijabs and about Islam. After more and more people began participating, the Susan G Komen Foundation was contacted and Pink Hijab Day had its start.

Q:What is the purpose of Pink Hijab Day?
A: 1) To encourage people to ask questions about Hijab, and extinguish stereotypes people may have about hijab
2) To raise awareness and funds for breast cancer foundations across the globe
3) To encourage Muslim women to participate in helping their own communities

Q:Who can participate in Pink Hijab Day?
A: Anyone! Anyone can wear a pink item, whether it's a pink Hijab, a pink ribbon, or pink socks. In 2008, a group of students in Canada dyed kufis and wore pink kufis. Even if you don't wear anything pink, you can donate to any local cancer foundation.

Let's make this day a success by showing oursupport and getting involved. Check out the following websites to lend a hand of support or send a monetary donation:

Pinkhijabday.net

www.nationalbreastcancer.org/

http://ww5.komen.org/

http://www.breastcancercampaign.org/

Muslimahs unite!

Najwa & Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

French Muslim woman wearing 'burkini' banned from Paris swimming pool

France’s struggle with Islamic dress has moved into the swimming pool after a 35-year-old woman was banned from bathing in her “burkini”, a head-to-toe swimsuit.

The woman, identified only as Carole, was making her third outing in a burkini to the town pool at Emerainville, on the eastern outskirts of Paris, when the chief lifeguard ordered her to leave.

She was said to be breaking hygiene rules, but her ejection has become the latest episode in a battle between fundamentalist Muslims and a state that has banned head-cover from schools and may curb face-covering in public.

Carole accused the pool officials of illegal discrimination and went straight to the police and the media. “Quite simply, this is segregation,” she said. “I will fight to try to change things. And if I see that the battle is lost, I cannot rule out leaving France.”

The police refused to accept the complaint on the grounds that the lifeguard was just enforcing a rule that applies at all French public pools. Women must wear swimsuits and men must wear brief trunks rather than shorts, which are said to be more likely to harbour bacteria.

Carole, who was born in a traditional French family and converted to Islam at the age of 17, said she bought her attire on holiday in Dubai. The burkini, designed by Aheda Zanetti, a Lebanese-Australian, has become a hit in the Gulf and caused trouble in public pools in Europe and North America.

Despite the allusion to the Afghan burka, the swimsuit leaves the face uncovered. The body is clad in a track-suit-like tunic and coat and the head and neck are covered with a cross between a hijab and a diver’s balaclava helmet.

“I thought that it could enable me to enjoy the pleasure of bathing without uncovering myself, as Islam recommends,” she told Le Parisien newspaper. “I understand that it might shock people, but I am annoyed because I have been told that it is a political matter. I didn’t set out to cause a stir. My only aim was to be able to go swimming with my children.”

The local authorities insisted that no politics were involved. “The lady was almost fully dressed,” Daniel Guillaume, the head of sports facilities for the Seine-et-Marne département, said. “The personnel simply applied the rules that are in effect in all pools in France.” That view was not shared by politicians who want tougher measures to oppose a rise in body-covering by strict Muslim women, and Muslims demanding segregated sessions for men and women at pools and other sports facilities.

“Maybe you can see the woman’s face in this ridiculous swimsuit, but it is obviously a provocation by a militant,” said André Gerin, a Communist MP from the Rhône area. “Going straight to the police station is clear proof that there is a political project behind this outfit. No doubt this is the start of a new problem.”

Mr Gerin heads a 32-member parliamentary inquiry that opened last month to review the possibility of a law to bar Muslim women from wearing the face-covering niqab in public. President Sarkozy stirred fundamentalist anger in June when he sided with the review, saying that such dress was not a symbol of faith, but a sign of women’s subservience and that it had “no place in France”.

The move to legislate drew a violent response from foreign extremists. “Yesterday it was the hijab and today it is the niqab,” said Abu Musab Abdul Wadud, the leader of al-Qaeda in the Islamic Maghreb. “We will take revenge for the honour of our daughters and sisters against France and against its interests by every means at our disposal.”

France caused a stir in the Muslim world in 2004 with a law barring the hijab headscarf and all other religious dress from state primary and secondary schools.

The measure, which was implemented without protest, is strongly backed by the public, including a substantial number of the six million Muslims in the country.

Muslimah2Muslimah New Shahaadah Interview: Tahirah

In Muslimah2Muslimah's experience of reverts to Islam, we think the transitions of one's thoughts, opinions, and behavior, in fact a whole transformation of one's perspective in life is very interesting.

The negative image presented about Islam since 9-11 here in the states has really given Islam a bad name due to the media as well as people's lack of understanding. The stereotypes about the treatment of women has been rampant in the media for many years with the Taliban and other "extremist" groups. We thought it would be interesting to interview Tahirah, who in the midst of all propaganda has warmly embraced Islam and get her Muslimah's Perspective on Islam...

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your name?

Tahirah

Muslimah2Muslimah: What made you become interested in Islam?

Tahirah: I was a new patient at a local doctor's office. I noticed that the staff were women in Niqab and Hijab! I was in awe. The office was so peaceful, and the staff was completely friendly, warm, welcoming, and professional. I was at a place in my life where I was feeling isolated, depressed, and without hope. I say this sister's to say that, seeing the staff so proudly dressed in their traditional Muslim attire, immediately made me feel less anxiety about my visit. The actual doctor came to get me in full Burqa......she welcomed me and the first thing she said after reviewing my chart was, "how do you feel about Islam?" We spoke awhile, and she told me the most powerful and life changing information about Allah's love for me. Later in my session, she gave me the Shahaadah witnessed by 3 other nurses, and gave me the name Tahirah. My life was changed forever!

Muslimah2Muslimah: What does your family think about your decision?

Tahirah: My family has been very supportive of me, and see the change in my outlook on life. They support me 100%!

Muslimah2Muslimah: What types of reactions have you gotten from your friends or coworkers?

Tahirah: My company allows for me to work from home, so not many coworkers are aware of my conversion. The ones that I have an interpersonal relationship with, however seem to pass judgement slightly. My true friends love, respect, and applaud my decision.

Muslimah2Muslimah: How has Islam changed your life?

Tahirah: In a variety of ways. The initial feeling I had after my Shahaadah was one of purity and of peace. The feeling I feel every day is that of pride, enlightenment, and fulfillment. I know a peace and love that I never have. I see life and all things in it as a blessing from Allah, and the mercy he shows me everyday. How do you explain having a blind fold on for 38 years, and all of a sudden, the sunlight presented to you? "Allah is the Protector of those who have faith: from the depths of darkness He will lead them forth into light. Of those who reject faith the patrons are the Evil Ones: from light they will lead them forth into the depths of darkness. They will be companions of the fire to dwell therein (forever)." (Qur'an: Translation of the meaning, 2:257

Muslimah2Muslimah: What advice would you give to someone who is interested in Islam?

Tahirah: I would tell them any information, notions, or previous ideals they had about Islam, completely remove from your mind. The best thing to do is utilize your local Mosque for classes and study groups offered to new converts. The Internet has great information and websites for new converts or people interested in the faith as well.

Muslimah2Muslimah: Islamically, women are required to wear a hijab. Others say that you must also cover your face(niqab). What are your thoughts on this?

Tahirah: I love Niqab and feel that the element it provides is one of complete empowerment. Similarly love Hijab, and find it odd that people see it as a sign of oppression as opposed to complete freedom, pride, and empowerment. Inshallah, I would like to eventually wear Niqab.

Muslimah2Muslimah: How did you feel the first time you wore hijab?

Tahirah:Beautiful! A makeover that beautified my inner and outer self.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your opinion on the common labels associated with Muslims ("terrorists", "extremists" , etc.)?

Tahirah: Whenever one is uneducated in something, and that same source is in a position of conveying information to the masses, things get distorted. It is unfortunate that society has labeled the entire Islamic way of life as "extremists and terrorists." Nothing could be further from the truth.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your view on the impression that many non-Muslims have that Islam oppresses the women and the women have no voice in their communities?

Tahirah: I am new to Islam, and am getting exposure daily that Muslim women posses so much strength and resolve. There is this bond and sisterhood amongst Muslimahs that is like no other! Now could an oppressed individual be that powerful?

Muslimah2Muslimah: The media tends to give very negative views on women and many non-Muslims base their views solely on this. What was your view on Islam and the treatment of women before you converted to Islam?

Tahirah: Sadly, I was very misinformed and initially had similar views.

Muslimah2Muslimah: Has your view changed in any way?

Tahirah: I am happy to say that Muslimah 2 Muslimah was my first exposure to any kind of Muslimah values and culture directly after my Shahaadah, and I learned first and foremost how prideful and empowered Muslim women feel and are!

Muslimah2Muslimah: How have has Muslimah2Muslimah helped you along your journey to Islam?/ How have you benefited from Muslimah2Muslimah?

Tahirah: Where do I begin? :o) I learned how to properly wear Hijab, new information for newly converted Muslimahs, adorable modern Muslim fashion tips and style, values of the Muslim woman, and Muslim terms. Mashallah, I will continue to learn and embrace my new faith! Al Hamdu Lilah Wa Shukru Lillah

~Insha'allah, everyone... please pray for our new sister Tahirah and welcome her into Islam by leaving her your encouragement and wisdom, insha'allah! We are very pleased with her decision as we know she is as well. Tahirah, may Allah bless you and your family in all of your endeavors and may He grant you Jannatul Firdaus! Ameen!


Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

Ramadan: Who? What? Where? When? Why?

Alhamdulilah Ramadan is here!!! For many of you this is your first Ramadan and others are seasoned pros at this point. If this is your first Ramadan you're in for a wonderful experience. When I think of my first Ramadan I remember feeling very peaceful, calm, nervous, anxious, and excited all at once. Mostly because I had only been a Muslimah for a few months and still had a lot to learn but it was amazing time for me. = ) Insha' Allah this post will be informative to the new shahaadahs and a helpful refresher for others.

What?

What does it mean to fast during the month of Ramadan? It means abstaining from the following: food, drink and sexual intercourse. This means no water, candy or gum. We must do more than simply not eat while we are fasting.

"Many a one who fasts obtains nothing from his fasting but thirst, and many a one who prays during the night obtains nothing from his night prayers but wakefulness." (Al-Tirmidhi)

To avoid this we want to mindful of our thoughts, actions, temper and words.
Most importantly because it was prescribed by Allah (s.w.t.) in the Quran

"O you who believe! Observing As-Sawm (the fasting) is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, that you may become Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)? [al-Baqarah 2:183]

The month of Ramadan is a blessed month. It is the month in which Allah revealed the Quran as guidance for the whole of mankind. It is the month in which Allah gave the Muslims victory in their first and greatest battle at Badr. It is the month which has Laylat al-Qadr, a night which is better than a thousand months.

Fasting during the month of Ramadan is the 3rd pillar of Islam and it is a means of learning self-control. Ramadan is a time of intensive worship, reading of the Quran, giving charity, purifying one's behavior, and doing good deeds.

Who?

Fasting in Ramadan is obligatory on all adults who are sane. Sick people, women who are menstruating or post natal bleeding and some travelers in certain conditions are exempt from the fast but must make it up as they are able. They can do this either by feeding the hungry of fasting later on in the year.

When?

The daily period of fasting starts at the breaking of dawn and ends at the setting of the sun. We start our day off with suhoor (a pre-fast meal) before dawn and a iftar (post-fast mea) after sunset.

The Islamic lunar calendar, being 11 to 12 days shorter than the Gregorian calendar, migrates throughout the seasons. Thus, if Ramadan begins on January 20 one year, next year it will begin on approximately January 9. In this way, the length of the day, and thus the fasting period, varies in length from place to place over the years. Every Muslim, no matter where he or she lives, will see an average Ramadan day of the approximately 13.5 hours.

This year Ramadan began on the 22^nd of August.

Where?

Worldwide! Muslims around the world are fasting for the month of Ramadan.
During Ramadan the gates of paradise are opened and the gates of the Hell-Fire are closed and the Shayaateen are locked up. (Muslim). There are no excuses to not do what we are supposed to. What ever you naffs are, give them up for the month and insha' Allah everyday after Ramadan as well. Insha' Allah, if you can do it or not do for 30 days you can maintain it for ever.

The rewards for fasting during this month are great, let's not let this opportunity pass us by.
Fasting is a means for one's sins to be forgiven. The Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w.) said: "He who fasts Ramadan, due to iman and hoping for reward (from Allah) then his past sins are forgiven." [Bukhaaree, Muslim]

May Allah grant us all a successful and blessed Ramadan and may our previous sins be forgiven- ameen

Asalaamu alaikum

Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

Ramadan F.Y.I.

The Intention

Prophet (s.a.w.) said: "Whoever does not intend to fast before dawn, there is no fast for him." (Al-Tirmidhi) "Whoever does not intend to fast from the night before, there is no fast for him." (Al-Tirmidhi)

The place of intention is the heart and to utter it verbally is not established from the Prophet (s.a.w.) or his companions, may Allah be pleased with them. Thus one should make intention in ones heart before going to sleep.

The time for beginning and ending the fast.

Fajr
Eat and drink, until the white thread of dawn appear to you distinct from its black thread; then complete your fast Till the night appears(Quran 2:187)

ii) The meal that is taken before the fajr is called Suhoor (predawn meal)

We should make sure that we eat and drink something at Suhoor, and that we delay it until just before the adhanof Fajr.

The Prophet [an error occurred while processing this directive] (s.a.w.) said "The distinction between our fasting and the fasting of the people of the book is the taking of the pre -dawn meal (Suhoor)" (Muslim)

The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: " Have Suhoor, for in Suhoor there is blessing (barakah)." ( Al-Bukharee)

It is also guidance of the Prophet (s.a.w. ) to delay the Suhoor meal until just before the true fajr. (note along with no eating or drinking whilst fasting. one can not have sexual intercourse with spouse. kissing and hugging is allowed but if such close contact causes ejaculation then this will break the fast. Also swallowing saliva of some one else invalidates the fast.

3 The time to breaking the fast (Iftar).

This time is as soon as Maghrib Starts (after sun has set). If you are in the Masjid or close by and hear the Athan for Maghrib prayer then it means you can now break your fast.

One should hasten to break the fast because the Prophet (s.a.w.) said: "The people will be fine so long as they do not delay iftar." ( Al-Bukharee). He (s.a.w.) also said "My Ummah will not cease to be upon my Sunnah as long as they do not await the stars when breaking the fast" (Ibn Hibban). So as soon as Maghrib begins (i.e. if you are in the Masjid and Athan is said) one should start to break the fast immediately.

Break the fast in the manner described in the hadith narrated by Anas (s.a.w.)may Allah be pleased with him): "The Prophet (s.a.w.) used to break his fast with fresh dates before praying; if fresh dates were not available, he would eat (dried) dates; if dried dates were not available, he would have a few sips of water." ( Al-Tirmidhi)

Dua said when Breaking the fast

ALLAAHUMMA LAKA S'UMTU WA A'LAA RIZQIKA AFT'ARTU WA A'LAYKA TAWAWKKALTU

O my Allah, for Thee, I fast, and with the food Thou gives me I break the fast, and I rely on Thee

Hijabi Recessionista Find of the Week: eShakti!

Okay we are totally loving eShakti. Their logo is We Design. You Customize! How perfect is that? They have a wide variety of clothes that we as Muslimahs can wear and still observe hijab. And the designs are very cute and different. They have everything from skirts, shirts, dresses and more. Trust us when we say you will love this site!



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Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

Muslimah2Muslimah New Shahadah Interview: Alula!!!

In Muslimah2Muslimah's experience of reverts to Islam, we think the transitions of one's thoughts, opinions, and behavior, in fact a whole transformation of one's perspective in life is very interesting. Alula is one of our tweet buddies on Twitter and also a fellow blogger! You can check out her blog at: http://bchantae.blogspot.com/. It is called "life of an African-American Muslimah."

The negative image presented about Islam since 9-11 here in the states has really given Islam a bad name due to the media as well as people's lack of understanding. The stereotypes about the treatment of women has been rampant in the media for many years with the Taliban and other "extremist" groups. We thought it would be interesting to interview Alula, who in the midst of all propaganda has warmly embraced Islam and get her Muslimah's Perspective on Islam...

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your name?
Alula: Alula Bruinton

Muslimah2Muslimah: What made you become interested in Islam?
Alula: In my African- American Studies class we were studying Islam. We didn't go as into-depth as I wanted to, so I studied the deen on my own. After studying the deen, I enjoyed it and made a decision to convert.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What does your family think about your decision?
Alula: In my first few months my family was not very supportive at all. A lot of my family still doesn't accept it, but my mother is getting a lot better at atleast trying to understand and accept it. Christianity is very strong in my family, I only have one muslim cousin and I see here like once every 5 years, so it's very hard for me and my family to agree on Islam.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What types of reactions have you gotten from your friends or coworkers?
Alula: My close friends and co-workers are very supportive of my decision! One of my very close friends has offered to not engage in any activitied or enviornments that I can't so that it won't be hard for me and I will feel comfortable. I'm very happy and greatful for that! I am interested to see how my other friends and classmates will react with me being the only muslimah on campus. It will be a big change for them, and that will be how I can tell who my real friends are.

Muslimah2Muslimah: How has Islam changed your life?
Alula: Being a young converted muslimah, Islam has brought me a lot of life changes. Islam has brought me so much peace and understanding. I understand Islam so much more than I understood Christianity, and I enjoy it being all about Allah and I.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What advice would you give to someone who is interested in Islam?
Alula: I would encourage them to come to Islam and study the deen and make sure they are ready to committ themselves to Allah and the deen. Islam comes with many changes for most young converters, but these changes are definately for the better!

Muslimah2Muslimah: Islamically, women are required to wear a hijab. Others say that you must also cover your face(niqab). What are your thoughts on this?
Alula: I personally prefer hijab over niqab. It took me a while to make the decision to wear hijab and get used to it, but I love hijab and I'm glad that I made the decision to wear it.

Muslimah2Muslimah: How did you feel the first time you wore hijab?
Alula: I felt good the first time I wore hijab. I did feel as though a lot of people were staring at me, but other than that, I felt great about it.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your opinion on the common labels associated with Muslims ("terrorists", "extremists" , etc.)?
Alula: I don't like or agree with these labels at all. Islam is a religion of peace. I know I can't change everyone's minds about their opinions, but I would like to prove people wrong about these misconceptions and open their minds to be more diverse and accepting.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your view on the impression that many non-Muslims have that Islam oppresses the women and the women have no voice in their communities?
Alula: I don't believe that Islam oppresses women at all. If people studied more and tried to understand and research the things they judge so much, they would have more insight on the situations and opionions they made.

Muslimah2Muslimah: The media tends to give very negative views on women and many non-Muslims base their views solely on this. What was your view on Islam and the treatment of women before you converted to Islam?
Alula: I honestly thought different from the media and negative views they had on Islam and the women. I have never had a problem with Islam or Muslims and Muslim women. I am a very open and diverse person and I love that about myself. I am in no way judgemental like the majority of the world. I still have the same thoughts and feelings after converting.

Muslimah2Muslimah: Has your view changed in any way?
Alula: Not at all. If anything my love and understanding has grown more for Islam and the muslimahs, especially the young muslimahs like myself out here in the world. We aren't perfect and it's hard in the day and age we live in to be the modest women that we are and have to be Masha'Allah.

Muslimah2Muslimah: How has Muslimah2Muslimah helped you along your journey to Islam?
Alula: Muslimah2Muslimah has helped me a lot. They've helped me strive to be a better muslimah. I never would've imagined that the Hijabi look would be for me, but I've grown into it and if I hadn't found Muslimah2Muslimah or the Muslimahs that I made friends with off the site, I would be a confused and lost muslimah. I also appreciate Muslimah2Muslimah helping me find hijabs where I live (lol), I was having the hardest time with that.

~Insha'allah, everyone... please pray for our new little sister Alula and welcome her into Islam by leaving her your encouragement and wisdom, insha'allah! We are very pleased with her decision as we know she is as well. Alula, may Allah bless you and your family in all of your endeavors and may He grant you Jannatul Firdaus! Ameen!

Muslimah2Muslimah Hijabi Find: Fabulous Sandals!!!!

Sandals, sandals and more sandals ladies! This summer it's all about embellishments, stones and bead work. Mix and match sandals with all sorts of fabulous colors! You can wear sandals with anything i.e. jeans, maxi skirt, overgarment, etc. Best of all, they're comfortable!! Don't forget you henna or your nail stains when you step out in a fabulous pair of these.





Don't forget as hijabi recessionista we can find all of these shoes at places like Marshall's, Ross, Macy's, Rainbow, Baker's, etc.




Happy Shopping!!
Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

Muslim Women to Look up to: Hazrat Aisha

It's important that as Muslimahs we have our own role models to look up to. We don't look to the latest stars, celebrities, models and politicians for our examples. Instead we look to the Muslimahs of yesterday and today. We are beautiful, strong, intelligent women with voices to be heard. Always have been and always will be. We are the mothers, the teachers, the listeners, the supporters and the backbone of our Ummah.

Hazrat Aisha (Radi’Allahu Anha)

Her name and lineage
Her name was Aisha Siddiqah and Humaira was her surname, the daughter of Abu Bakr (Radi’Allah Anhu), the first Caliph of Islam. Her mother’s name was Zainab (Radi’Allah Anha) who belonged to the tribe of Ghanam-bin-Maalik.

Marriage to the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam)
Out of all the wives of the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam), Aisha (Radi’Allahu Anha) was the only wife who had not been married before. The dower money was fixed at 500 Dirhams. With this marriage, a number of old Arab traditions were corrected:

• The Arabs did not marry the daughter of a man who had been declared as brother without any blood relationship. This was the cause of astonishment on the part of her father Abu Bakr (Radi’Allah Anhu) when the marriage was first proposed. However, the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, “You are my brother in Islam and not in blood relationship.”
• Another wrong tradition was that Arabs did not get married in the month of Shawwal because in the ancient past, a plague had broken out during this month. Again this tradition was finished as the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) and Aisha (Radi’Allahu Anha) had got married in this blessed month.

Her Qualities
She was a scholar of great eminence, superior in knowledge not only in comparison to the other Wives of the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) and other female companions, but also to most of the male companions. Imam Zehri, a Tabie’e of great renown said, “Aisha was the greatest among the living scholars. Many of the illustrious companions approached her as students and made enquiries on points of knowledge.” He also mentioned, “If the knowledge of all male scholars was collectively assessed, the knowledge of Hazrat Aisha (Radi’Allahu Anha) was far more than theirs”.

Her knowledge of medicine was unparalleled, largely having learnt directly from the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). She was eloquent par excellence and sweet of speech. Musa Bin Talha is reported by Imam Tirmidhi to have said, “I never saw a person more eloquent in speech than Aisha (Radi’Allahu Anha).”

Character and Conduct
Hazrat Aisha (Radi’Allahu Anha) was a person of perfect boldness and self-respect. She avoided backbiting, and her most distinctive virtue was her generosity and large heartedness. Once Amir Mo’awiya sent her a hundred thousand Dirhams from Syria, she gave them away in charity before sunset and kept nothing back for herself.

She was God-fearing, compassionate and consistent with optional prayers. She used to get up at midnight and pray Tahajjud (midnight prayer) in the company of the Holy Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). She was so regular in this, that after the demise of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam), she never missed it.

She frequently kept voluntary fasts and performed the Hajj every year. She was kind and compassionate to slaves and used to set them free after purchasing them. The number of her freed slaves stood at sixty-seven.

*** Article from http://issmstudents.org.uk***



Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

Muslimah2Muslimah: New Shahaadah Interview : Nahleejah

In Muslimah2Muslimah's experience of reverts to Islam, we think the transitions of one's thoughts, opinions, and behavior, in fact a whole transformation of one's perspective in life is very interesting. Nahleejah is one of our friends on our Facebook and recently became a Muslimah, alhumdulilah.

The negative image presented about Islam since 9-11 here in the states has really given Islam a bad name due to the media as well as people's lack of understanding. The stereotypes about the treatment of women has been rampant in the media for many years with the Taliban and other "extremist" groups. We thought it would be interesting to interview Nahleejah, who in the midst of all propaganda has warmly embraced Islam and get her Muslimah's Perspective on Islam...



Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your name?
Nahleejah: Nahleejah B. Anaum

Muslimah2Muslimah: What made you become interested in Islam?
Nahleehah: I loved how simple it was and how much dedication is put into it.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What does your family think about your decision?
Nahleejah: My family is really not at all close. However the ones I talk to like my step mom, dad and brother think it's great.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What types of reactions have you gotten from your friends or coworkers?
Nahleejah: Everyone is pretty much fine with it. [I] had one friend tell me she was not happy at all with my decision but she's got love for me still. She thinks I should give Jesus(PBUH) another try. Friends back home(Jersey) say Alhumdulilah(Some were born into Islam).

Muslimah2Muslimah: How has Islam changed your life?
Nahleejah: Well I've only been Muslim since April so I haven't experienced much plus I never go any where. Stuck in the house raising my two baby boys, you know doing the single mom thing. But for the most part I'm loving how simple it is, no more middle man like go[ing] through the son to get to the father. Straight to the point Me and Allah /Allah and Me.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What advice would you give to someone who is interested in Islam?
Nahleejah: I would say God/Allah is a God of peace. Islam is peaceful. God/Allah detests confusion. Islam is very simple. How confused can you get if you[r] at peace?.

Muslimah2Muslimah: Islamically, women are required to wear a hijab. Others say that you must also cover your face(niqab). What are your thoughts on this?
Nahleejah: Personally, I have no problem with either one. I choose to wear a hijab now because it's Hot I love the look. Niqab is not bad either I might wear that one day it's kind of mysterious I don't know why I like the ninja look, I love it though. I know that we wear these pieces for modesty, I feel that these pieces don't necessarily make you more modest than others. I'm sure there are some sisters who still get there flirt on with them on sadly(just keeping it real) I grew up in an Islamic community in Jersey so I've seen[it] before. It happens....
I feel that yes you should be decent and comfortable while maintaining a look that is pleasing to Allah and that doesn't have to be wearing scarves or jilbabs and such.

Muslimah2Muslimah: How did you feel the first time you wore hijab?
Nahleejah: lol wow that's a great question...Well the day before I too[k] my Shahaadah which I took on April 10th, I bought my first [khimar] at a local Islamic spot lol. I was nervous to put it on. lol I don't know why maybe It's because it was going to change my life. This hijab meant a lot, it meant that everything I was taught and built my standards on would change dramatically. I was excited and scared, I know it's a scarf, but that scarf to me meant freedom of choice and belief. I didn't wear it out the store I took it home and put it on and stood in front of the mirror looking at my self. You know it's funny as a woman your hair expresses so much of who you are whether it be short or long curly or straight real or fake lol it's your chance to let people know what your working with lol. Your outside beauty is defined on that alone, considering most people may have a prettier face than body (sadly societies thought process). Anyhoo, I stood there until I shaved that falsehood off and saw how much more beautiful I was with my hijab on. And I looked and felt STUNNING lol. I love it! It enhanced how flawless I am lol. I walked to the mail box then came back in and said to myself I could do it I could be a hijab wearing Muslimah. It's me!

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your opinion on the common labels associated with Muslims ("terrorists", "extremists" , etc.)?
Nahleejah: Please....Islam has nothing to do with terrorism.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your view on the impression that many non-Muslims have that Islam oppresses the women and the women have no voice in their communities?
Nahleejah: I ask[ed] about that before I became Muslim too, I saw how women [over] seas were being treated and I swore I would never put my self in that type of environment(never say never I know lol). I did some research of my own and found that in the Quran women are highly respected.

Muslimah2Muslimah: The media tends to give very negative views on women and many non-Muslims base their views solely on this. What was your view on Islam and the treatment of women before you converted to Islam?
Nahleejah: My view on Islam hmmm...I really don't think I had any judgement on it, I respected it. I had a few questions that's all but for the most part I respected the dedication and knowledge it possessed. I was really very curious about it. I didn't realize how deep it was. I see now just how deep it is. I realize you have to be willing to learn and be open minded to see the beauty in it. Allah is beautiful Allahu akbar!

Muslimah2Muslimah: Has your view changed in any way?
Nahleejah: I just have a clear understanding on what Allah expects from us. No confusion at all.

Muslimah2Muslimah: How has Muslimah2Muslimah helped you along your journey to Islam?/ How have you benefited from Muslimah2Muslimah?
Nahleejah: It's helped very much so, it's nice to hear your perspectives on issues in Islam. We are basically the same age and some what at this time are experiencing the same issues and how you guys handle it or how other sisters handle it helps the next sister. Basically I'm not in this fight alone it's nice to have back up :o)

~Insha'allah, everyone... please pray for Sister Nahleejah & her sons and welcome her into Islam by leaving her your encouragement and wisdom, insha'allah! We are very pleased with her decision as we know she is as well. Nahleejah, may Allah bless you and your family in all of your endeavors and may He grant you Jannatul Firdaus! Ameen!

Asalaamu alaikum
Najwa & Nadira
Muslimah2Muslimah

Muslimah2Muslimah Book of the Month: My Advice to the Women

Masha' Allah this book is an excellent read filled with plenty of advice and daleel(proof) to back it up. This book is written by a woman, Shaykhah Umm 'Abbdillaah al-Waadi"iyyah, so it's advice coming from a sister's perspective which is always helpful. In this book you will find information about traveling, backbiting, rights, maintaining family relations with non-Muslims and plenty more!!!! The last part of the book has Q & A as well as a glossary of many common terms.

Exert from My Advice to the Women

"Who will be those who cultivate the women, for indeed, that is the secret behind the failures in the east? The mother is a school; who if properly prepared can produce an entire generation upon a sound foundation.
The mother is like a beautiful garden; who when properly preserved with shyness my produce many flowers.
The mother is the teacher of teachers, whose many important actions could fill the horizon"

Book Information

Tarbiyyah Bookstore Publishing & Distributions
www.tarbiyyahbookstore.com
info@tarbiyyahbookstore.com

***It is a very popular book and often out of stock but insha' Allah because it is so popular you may know a sister who has a copy

Happy Reading!!!!!!
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

Muslim Women to Look Up to: Hazrat Safiyaah

Insha' Allah this will be a recurring feature. It's important that as Muslimahs we have our own role models to look up to. We don't look to the latest stars, celebrities, models and politicians for our examples. Instead we look to the Muslimahs of yesterday and today. We are beautiful, strong, intelligent women with voices to be heard. Always have been and always will be. We are the mothers, the teachers, the listeners, the supporters and the backbone of our Ummah.

Our first Muslim Woman to Look Up To is Hazrat Safiyaah

Hazrat Safiyaah (Radi’Allahu Anha)

Her name and lineage
Her real name was Zainab (Radi’Allahu Anha). Any booty obtained after a battle was known as Safiyyah in Arabia, and as she fell captive to the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam), in the Battle of Khyber, she was thus named Safiyyah.

Safiyyah (Radi’Allahu Anha)’s father was Hayye Bin Akhtab, the chief of the Jewish tribe of Banu Nazeer. He was considered to be a descendant of Prophet Aaron (as). Her mother Zarrah was the daughter of Samwal, the chief of the Jewish tribe Quraizah. Both were distinguished tribes of Banu Israel and had resided in the north of Arabia for a long time.

Marriage to the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam)
She first married a man called Islam, son of Mashkam Al-Qarzi who divorced her. She was then married to Kinanah Bin Abi-Haqiq, who was killed in the Battle of Khyber. Her father and brother were also killed in the battle. She was arrested alongside all the other war prisoners. As she was the daughter of the Chief of Khyber, she was thought fit only for the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). Safiyyah (Radi’Allahu Anha) was set at liberty and the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) took her into wed-lock.

Features and Character
She was short of stature, but beautiful. Like the other wives of the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam), she was looked upon as a center of light and learning. A few Traditions were narrated by her on the authority of Hazrat Zain-ul-Abideen, Ishaq Bin Abdullah Bin Haris, Muslim Bin Safwan, Kinanah and Yazid Bin Mu’tab.

When Hazrat Sohairah Bint Teyfer returned to Medina after performing Hajj, she found Safiyyah (Radi’Allahu Anha) surrounded by women from Kufa to ask questions on religious matters.

Her character was very high and she contained many virtues. Imam Zarqani described her as intelligent, forbearing and scholarly. Patience and forbearance were her permanent features. At Khyber, when she and her sister were coming along with the captives, her sister cried and shrieked at seeing the dead bodies, but Hazrat Safiyyah (Radi’Allahu Anha) walked past the dead body of her husband and displayed exemplary patience and forbearance.

Safiyya (Radi’Allahu Anha) loved the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) very dearly. When he (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) fell ill, Safiyya (Radi’Allahu Anha) said, ‘I pray that your affliction had befallen me’. The other wives started looking at her, but the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, ‘She is only saying the truth’. The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) also loved her very much. Once, on the eve of a journey, the camel of Hazrat Safiyyah (Radi’Allahu Anha) fell ill. The Holy Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) asked Zainab (Radi’Allahu Anha) who had many camels to lend one to Hazrat Safiyyah (Radi’Allahu Anha). Hazrat Zainab (Radi’Allahu Anha) declined and called Hazrat Safiyyah (Radi’Allahu Anha) a Jewess. This offended the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) and he did not visit Zainab (Radi’Allahu Anha) for two months.
On another occasion, Aisha (Radi’Allahu Anha) made remarks about the short stature of Safiyyah (Radi’Allahu Anha) and the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) disliked this, saying, ‘You have said something which, if sunk in the sea-water, would make it muddy’.

Safiyyah (Radi’Allahu Anha) was also an expert cook and used to send dishes to the Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) in the apartments of the other wives.

Her Death
Safiyyah (Radi’Allahu Anha) was 60 years old when she passed away in Ramadhan, 50AH. She was buried in Jannat-ul-Baqi.

*** Article from http://issmstudents.org.uk***

Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

Nadira's Hijabi Find!! - Summer Perfection

Alhumdulilah, I think I've found the perfect summer over garment. I purchased this over garment at Islam Orient. I'm so hype I just got it in the mail today! It comes in a variety of sizes and lengths for the petite to the tall(like Muslimah2Muslimah). It's made of light weight linen and it has pockets!! Their prices start at £19.99 which is about $33.



I got the basic brown Islamic Style Abaya with brown trim. This way I can wear it with any color(s) I want. I paired it with a mustard scarf, bracelets, clutch and nude ballet flats. Insha' Allah you like it because I love it!!!


Click on Islam Orient to visit their site. They also have bags and shoes!



Happy Shopping!!
Nadira
Muslimah2Muslimah

Muslimah2Muslimah: New Shahaadah Interview : Crystal!!!

In Muslimah2Muslimah's experience of reverts to Islam, we think the transitions of one's thoughts, opinions, and behavior, in fact a whole transformation of one's perspective in life is very interesting. Crystal is one of our tweeters(is that what you call them) on Twitter and our friends on our Facebook recently became a Muslimah. She is an amazing new sister, alhumdulilah.

The negative image presented about Islam since 9-11 here in the states has really given Islam a bad name due to the media as well as people's lack of understanding. The stereotypes about the treatment of women has been rampant in the media for many years with the Taliban and other "extremist" groups. We thought it would be interesting to interview Crystal, who in the midst of all propaganda has warmly embraced Islam and get her Muslimah's Perspective on Islam...



Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your name?

Crystal: Crystal D. Murphy

Muslimah2Muslimah: What made you become interested in Islam?

Crystal: I started studying Islam some years ago. I was introduced on a whim by a guy I was seeing who to my surprise told me he was a Muslim. I immediately said "oh so you don't eat pork and you think all white people are the devil"? He then told me the difference between Islam and the Nation of Islam. I did some research and was close to reverting but my family was really upset so I backed away and from Islam and moved forward in Christianity.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What does your family think about your decision?

Crystal: At this point only my mother and brother know and they both think I'm crazy. My mother thinks I'm searching for something. She's not happy about my decision but she's dealing with it.

Muslimah2Muslimah:What types of reactions have you gotten from your friends or coworkers?

Crystal: The friends that know so far have had very positive reactions. My co-workers are not aware at this time but I'm sure they will have a lot of questions because they all know I was a devout Christian.

Muslimah2Muslimah: How has Islam changed your life?

Crystal: I have a very strong peace. I'm learning to not be so judgmental a person has to answer to Allah it's not for me to judge.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What advice would you give to someone who is interested in Islam?

Crystal: Islam is a wonderful religion. Do your research Muslims are very excited and willing to help you.

Muslimah2Muslimah: Islamically, women are required to wear a hijab. Others say that you must also cover your face(niqab). What are your thoughts on this?

Crystal: I believe it's a process and it's wear your heart is in the matter. InshAllah I'll be strong enough to completely make the change but at this point I'm praying for the courage because it is a very big change for me. I do believe hijab is the right thing because it is required.

Muslimah2Muslimah: How did you feel the first time you wore hijab?

Crystal: You know I bought some hijab scarfs for a trip I was taking to Africa. I was not a Muslim at the time but the first time I saw myself in it I knew something was right about it.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your opinion on the common labels associated with Muslims ("terrorists", "extremists" , etc.)?

Crystal: I think those labels are ridiculous. I think people look at what a few people did and want to label and whole group from what a few did. People have been killing people in the name of God for centuries and those people include Christians and Catholics so I don't think it's right to persecute a whole religion on the acts of a few.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your view on the impression that many non-Muslims have that Islam oppresses the women and the women have no voice in their communities?

Crystal: As an outsider looking in I honestly have to say I shared this view. That's why it's always good to go to the source. I was very surprised when we went over women's rights in my new Muslimah class.

Muslimah2Muslimah: The media tends to give very negative views on women and many non-Muslims base their views solely on this. What was your view on Islam and the treatment of women before you converted to Islam?

Crystal: Before I converted I believed Islam oppressed women as well. It seemed as if the men did what they wanted and the women just stayed at home and took care of the children. However now attending the Masjid regularly and meeting these women, seeing sisters like Ms. Latifah and Muslimah2Muslimah doing their thing has shown me another side to the life of a Muslimah.

Muslimah2Muslimah: Has your view changed in any way?

Crystal: Absolutely, I no longer see women as being oppressed or Islam as a religion of extremist. I truly understand now the religion of peace that the Muslims have been saying this is.


Muslimah2Muslimah: How have has Muslimah2Muslimah helped you along your journey to Islam?/ How have you benifited from Muslimah2Muslimah?


Crystal: Being a new revert I really enjoyed the piece on Hijab. It is a little rough at first for new converts to begin to change out their clothing. I just converted, I live in Ohio and it's summer. Long sleeve shirts are not readily available. But AlHamdAllah it's working out! I also enjoy seeing young proud Muslim sisters. It helps me to be stronger.

~Insha'allah, everyone... please pray for Sister Crystal and welcome her
into Islam by leaving her your encouragement and wisdom, insha'allah! We are very pleased with her decision as we know she is as well. Crystal, may Allah bless you in all of your endeavors and may He grant you Jannatul Firdaus! Ameen!

Asalaamu alaikum
Najwa & Nadira
Muslimah2Muslimah

NEW WEBSITE............well, sort of

We're in the process of transitioning our Blogspot into our official website, alhumdulilah! Insha' Allah you can find our Blogspot content and more at www.Muslimah2Muslimah.com. Make sure to change your bookmarks and favorites. While we're transitioning you can still pull our page up under www.Muslimah2Muslimah.blogspot.com but that will change soon.

We also have a new email address you can now reach us at mail@muslimah2muslimah.com


Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

Where Are All the Happy Muslimahs???

Have you ever looked on the internet for articles on Muslim women and everything that you saw was negative?

• Honor killings
• Oppression of women
• Beheadings of women
• Hijab is oppressive
• Muslimahs are docile
• Women have no voice in Islam
• Looking beyond the veil

Why is it that society only sees negativity when it comes to Muslimahs? Why are we not seen as contributors to society? Why are there so few Muslim women who speak out about REAL issues in Islam? Why is it that there is a negative connotation anytime you mention a Muslim woman???

Women's Issues: Inner Hijab

Islamic discourse a great deal of emphasis is placed on the issue of hijab for women with much debate about the extent and nature of that covering. This is obviously an important issue for Muslim women, but an equally significant topic is that of Modesty. The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhe wa sallam passed by an Ansari man who was counseling his brother on modesty (He was advising him not to be too much shy or modest). The Prophet said:

"Leave him (and do not advise him like this); for modesty is part of faith."
(Bukhari and Muslim).

The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhe wa sallam, also said,

"Modesty results in good alone and nothing else." (Bukhari and
Muslim).

Modesty is a term that is used often but one that is not clearly understood. One way to conceptualize it would be to think in terms of moving from an outer layer to the inner workings of a system. The covering, or hijab is the surface layer of modesty that everyone sees and that is very obvious to all. However, a woman could wear hijab and modesty may not go any deeper than that; it could be an artificial form of modesty or one done to satisfy another person. Going deeper, the next layer may consist of what is commonly known as self-consciousness or shyness. At this level the woman not only wears hijab, but also acts in a way that is reserved and respectful. An important behavior in this category is lowering of the gaze.

"And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty." [24:3 1]

Emphasis is often placed on men lowering their eyes, but this is also a requirement for women. Eyes should be turned away from everything that is forbidden.This includes not looking at any non-mahram man, at the awrah of another woman, or with bad intentions at another person. In one hadeeth qudsi, the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhe wa sallam, reported that Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, says,

"Looking at a non-mahram (men relatives to whom women cannot get married to) is one of the poisoned arrows of Satan.Whoever will stop it because of fearing me, I will bless him with such Emaan, the sweetness of which he will feel in his heart" (Tabarani).

Another characteristic at this level is humility in speech. As with everything in Islam, a woman's speech should be in moderation. It should be neither too loud nor too soft (so as to be alluring). Idle, senseless, excessive conversation should be avoided since it has no benefit and distracts from more important responsibilities. When a woman engages in conversation she should keep it decent and respectable and void of such harmful vices as backbiting, mockery, suspicion, and gossip. She should be humble and not boast about her abilities and achievements.

"Successful indeed are the believers who are humble in their salah, and who shun vain conversation, and who are payers of zakat" [23:1-4].

Being placed between two pillars of Islam demonstrates the very significance of this pronouncement.A woman should also attempt to avoid contact and conversation with non-mahram men. When this is necessary, such as for educational purposes or in the work environment, the discussion should be limited to pertinent matters and the woman should speak in a straight-forward and virtuous manner. As with the hijab, these rules of etiquette may be observed for various reasons. The woman may act modestly because of cultural norms, her own innate disposition, or to impress or satisfy other people. This may have no connection whatsoever to the innermost level of modesty as any non-believer may follow the same code of conduct.. The center of this innermost level is the heart, alongside Emaan. A true believing woman does not engage-in these behaviors for other people; rather, she does it for the sake of Allah. She does not do so out of shyness from other people; she does it out of shyness from Allah. She is humble in the presence of Allah because she knows that everything she has, her wealth, her status, her abilities, are only from Him. This understanding highlights the interconnection between modesty and Emaan. The Prophet (pbuh) said,

"Indeed, modesty and Emaan are companions. When one of them is lifted, the other leaves as well." (Baihaqi).

And when this happens, the moral fiber of society is jeopardized.

-Dr. Aisha Hamdan

May Allah reward us with the Imaan in this life so that we may battle the Shaytan and be steadfast in this deen. Ameen.

Najwa & Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

Muslimah2Muslimah T-Shirts Coming Soon!!!

Insha' Allah new t-shirts coming soon! We will be giving away gift bags with t-shirts and other goodies(pens, key chains, henna, etc.) randomly to our Blog spot followers and YouTube subscribers. After our first giveaway shirts will be available for sale. Make sure you follow and subscribe to both to increase your chances of getting something for FREE! Let us know what you think. Insha' Allah you like them!!!!!

You can put different color long sleeve shirts under these i.e. pink, white, black or gray

Asalaamu Alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah
muslima2muslima@gmail.com

What are you saying to Me? - Common Words and Phrases

Insha' Allah this will be helpful to new shahadahs(and all Muslimahs). When I first took my shahadah I wasn't sure what some of the words, phrases and appropiate responses were. Here are a few common ones, check out our New Shahadah Video on YouTube for the video that goes with this blog(being posted later on today, insha' Allah).

Common Phrases

Asalaamu alaikum - May peace be upon you
Wa alaikum salaam - May peace be upon you too
Asalaamu alaikum wa rahmatuallahi wa barakatu - May the peace and blessing of Allah be upon you
Wa alaikum salaam wa rahmatuallahi wa barakatu - May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon you too
Kaifa halak/Kaifa halik - How are you to a man/How are to a woman?
Alhumdulilah ana bekhair - Thanks be to Allah, I'm fine
Audhu bi allahi min al shaitani rajeem - I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed shaytan
Lā ilāha ill-Allāh - There is no God but Allah
Muhammed rasool Allah - Muhammad is the messenger of Allah
Sallah allahu alayhi wa salaam(saw) - Peace be upon him(say this after you say Prophet Muhammed)
Radhi Allahu anhu - Allah be pleased with him
Subhan wa ta 'ala - Glory be unto the Most High
Alhumdulilah - Thanks be to God
Bismilah - In the name of Allah
Subhan' Allah - Glory be to God
Masha' Allah - As Allah wills
Fisabilillah - For the sake of Allah
Jazakallah khair - May Allah reward you
Insha' Allah - God willing
Allahu akbar - God is Great
Astighfirallah - I seek forgiveness from Allah
Allahu Alum - Allah knows best

Common Words

Shukran - Thank you
Afwan - Your welcome
Masjid - Mosque
Salah/salaat - Prayer/prayers
Dua - Supplication/personal prayer
Wudu - Ablution/purification before prayer
Ghusl - Full wudu
Adhan - Call to prayer
Shahadah - Declaration of faith
Rasool - A messenger, a prophet given scripture
Hajj - Pilgrimage to Mecca once a year
Umrah - Pilgrimage to Mecca not made during the time for hajj
Islam - Submission to Allah
Iman - Faith
Imam - A leader, someone who leads the prayer
Akhira - The hereafter
Dunya - The physical universe, the world around us, worldly
Fitna - Trials/tests
Deen - Religion
Dawah - Call to Islam
Haraam - Forbidden
Halal - Permissible
Fard - Obligatory
Hadith - Sayings or traditions of the prophet (saws)
Sunnah - The example of the prophet (saws)
Na'am - Yes
La - No
Akhi - Brother
Ukhti - Sister
Hijab - Covering
Khimar - Head scarf
Niqab - Face veil
Muhajaba - Woman who wears hijab
Muntaqaba - Woman who wears niqab



Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira
Muslimah2Muslimah

PBS Film "New Muslim Cool" & Concert

This is the official Atlanta Screening of PBS's Dynamic new Film "New Muslim Cool". The screening will be followed by Question and Answer by the Producer & the Star of The Documentary Hamza Perez.

Following this will be a Benefit Concert Featuring: M-Team, HBO Def Poet Amir Sulaiman, Shaheed Tawheed, and Mustafa Abdul-Basit; some of the top Muslim artists in the nation.

About the film:
Puerto Rican American rapper Hamza Pérez ended his life as a drug dealer 12 years ago, and started down a new path as a young Muslim.

Now he’s moved to Pittsburgh’s tough North Side to start a new religious community, rebuild his shattered family, and take his message of faith to other young people through his uncompromising music as part of the hip-hop duo M-Team.

Raising his two kids as a single dad and longing for companionship, Hamza finds love on a Muslim networking website and seizes the chance for happiness in a second marriage.

But when the FBI raids his mosque, Hamza must confront the realities of the post-9/11 world, and challenge himself. He starts reaching for a deeper understanding of his faith, discovering new connections with people from Christian and Jewish communities.

NEW MUSLIM COOL takes viewers on Hamza’s ride through the streets, projects and jail cells of urban America, following his spiritual journey to some surprising places ---where we can all see ourselves reflected in a world that never stops changing.

Please come and join us and bro Hamza on his journey in this film and reflect on our own journeys and those yet to be experienced! This will mark the first of a series of films we hope to bring to the ATL promoting the development of our cultural expression in Islam in North America. All proceeds go to the Risala Institute, Atlanta, Ga.

CHECK OUT THE TRAILER @ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=leMWi2asGPw

Day:	Saturday, June 6, 2009
Time:	5:00pm - 11:00pm
Location:	Georgia Tech Student Center - Ball Room (3rd floor)
Street:	350 Ferst Dr., N.W.

Tickets are $15 in advance and $20 at the door
Tickets can be purchased at www.risalainstitute.com

Insha' Allah we'll see you there!
Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

What Do You See When You Look At Me?

What do you see when you look at me,

Do you see someone limited, or someone free,

All some people can do is just look and stare,

Simply because they cant see my hair,

Others think I am controlled and uneducated,

They are so thankful that they are not me,

Because they would like to remain ‘free’,

Well free isn’t exactly the word I would’ve used,

Describing women who are cheated on and abused,

They think that I do not have opinions or voice,

They think that being hooded isn’t my choice,

They think that the hood makes me look caged,

That my husband or dad is totally outraged,

All they can do is look at me in fear,

And in my eye there is a tear,

Not because I have been stared at or made fun of,

But because people are ignoring the One up above,

On the Day of Judgment they will be the fools,

Because they were too ashamed to play by their own rules,

Maybe the guys won’t think I am a cutie,

But at least I am filled with more inner beauty,

See I have declined from being a guy’s toy,

Because I won’t let my self be controlled by a boy,

Real men are able to appreciate my mind,

And aren’t busy looking at my behind,

Hooded girls are the ones really helping the Muslim cause,

The role that we play definitely deserves applause,

I will be recognized because I am smart and bright,

And because some people are inspired by my sight,

The smart ones are attracted by my tranquility,

In the back of their mind they wish they were me,

We have the strength to do what we think is right,

Even if it means putting up a life long fight,

You see we are not controlled by a mini skirt and tight shirt,

We are given only respect, and never treated like dirt,

So you see, we are the ones that are free and liberated,

We are not the ones that are sexually terrorized and violated,

We are the ones that are free and pure,

We’re free of STD ’s that have no cure,

So when people ask you how you feel about the hood,

Just sum it up by saying ‘baby its all good’.

-Author Unknown

Story of the Week!!! The Triple Filter Test

In ancient Greece , Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said,

"Do you know what I just heard about your friend?"

"Hold on a minute," Socrates replied. "Before telling me anything, I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test."

"Triple filter?"

"That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. That's why I call it the triple filter test.The first filter is TRUTH. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..."

"All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of GOODNESS. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?"

"No, on the contrary..."

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, but you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left: the filter of USEFULNESS. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really."

Socrates Replied;"Well," "if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"

Advice from our beloved prophet (peace be upon him) to mankind…..Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him said;

"Do you know what is backbiting?'They (the Companions) said: 'Allah and His Messenger (peace be upon him) know best.Thereupon he (the Prophet (peace be upon him)) said:

"Backbiting implies your talking about your brother (behind his back) in a manner which he does not like.'It was said to him: 'What is your opinion about this that if I actually find (that failing) in my brother which I made a mention of?'He (peace be upon him) said: 'If (that failing) is actually found (in him) what you assert, you in fact backbited (gheebah) him, and if that is not in him it is a slander!" (Nameemah)Sahih Muslim Hadith Hadith 6265 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Insha'Allah, this serves as a reminder for all of us to be mindful of the words that we speak. We should always use caution before we say or repeat anything. If you have nothing good to say, keep your mouth shut! We do not want to be amongst the backbiters on the Day of Judgment. May Allah save us from the bad in this life and from the bad in the hereafter. May he bless us all with success in this life and in the next.

Najwa & Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

How Cute Is This???

We were browsing through our twitter followers (are they called tweeps, twitterers or something??) and we came across a company called Just Muslim. This company has mostly t-shirts for men but then we noticed a women's section...... and then saw some cute stuff... like this hoodie that has "Muslimah" on the back. And the "Muslimah" t-shirt...

***We wouldn't recommend this t-shirt look for anyplace besides women's events or around the house but it is a cute idea.***


Pricing on these items:
T-shirt: $16.62 US and 10.00 GB Pound
Hoodie: $24.93 US and 15.00 GB Pound
www.justmuslim.co.uk


Happy Shopping!
Najwa & Nadira
Muslimah2Muslimah

We Finally Got A New Logo!!!

It's official guys and gals! Muslimah2Muslimah is on the map!!! Our new logo is official! We are super excited!!! For all of our new subscribers or those of you who have forgotten, here is our old logo:

And here is the new and improved logo done by Izzy of the coolest Muslim social networking site http://www.youracreator.com/...

By the way, if you have yet to join www.youracreator.com be sure to join us there!!! There is a lot to talk about and it is a very interactive site with many different topics and forum discussions relating to any and every issue that we have in the Islamic community. So, anyhow... we are signing off now but be sure to let us know what you think of the new logo as well as the website, insha'Allah!

Much Love,

Najwa & Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

On the Hunt for the Perfect Summer Hijabi Swimsuit!?!?!?

Okay, so we are STILL on our hunt for the perfect swimwear that is available out here! It's springtime, darnit and Muslimah2Muslimah wants to take a dive in the ocean! http://www.modestswimandsport.com/ these start at

£50.00 and up... this is British pounds... We are kinda digging the blue one but we think it is a little too form-fitting. The pink one looks way too hot but at least it covers more. We are still searching for the perfect summer swimsuit but in the meantime, we are keeping it simple with a simple yet nice beach outfit that we put together:

Beach style! by Muslimah2Muslimah featuring Monsoon dresses

Click on the picture for pricing and store locations. Hope you all like it and let us know what you think about our swimsuits and beach ideas!

Happy Springtime!

Najwa & Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

Mothers Day!

Today is Mother's Day and people across the country are taking this day to tell all the mothers in their life how grateful they are. Alhumdulilah, that is a beautiful thing. However, Muslimah2Muslimah feels that everyday should be Mother's Day.

Mothers have a very special place in Islam. Mothers guide, teach, nurture, comfort and much much more. They do all of theses things on a daily basis and we should show are gratitude for this every day. After all, the Prophet(SAW) said "paradise lies at the feet of the mothers". Meaning through our treatment to our mothers we can achieve Jenna. This is why it's so important that we are kind to them and treat them well.

Another hadith states that a man asked the Prophet (SAW), "Who is most worthy of my love and respect?" The Prophet (SAW)replied, "Your mother." The man asked, "And then who?" The Prophet (SAW) again answered, "Your mother." The man asked one more time and received the same answer. When the man asked the question a fourth time, the Prophet (SAW) answered, "Your father." Both of these hadith show how important Mothers are.

We want to send a special shot out to our Mothers , you are the reason we are the women we are today, you make us better. We love ya'll and we are grateful for you EVERY SINGLE DAY!

Shot out to all the mothers who read this and follow our blog, we love ya'll too!

Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

Some Day May Never Come!!

*this blog is intended as a reminder to myself and insha' Allah to all who read it*

We only have one guarantee in life and that is DEATH! It may seem very blunt but it's very true. Many times we can be very short-sited, particularly as youth(teens-twenties). I have recently experienced a few deaths in my family, some very unexpected, and it has got me thinking. We don't know when are time is going to be up! All we can do is live each and every moment for the sake of Allah. We have to guard our actions, thoughts and words. We have to keep in mind that our most precious gift is our deen and that we will never be perfect, but we can strive for perfection. Many people don't even have Islam in their hearts and we do. We as Muslimahs should never ever take this for granted.

We've said this before and previous blogs but we have made many changes in our lives over the past couple of years. We would say to ourselves that eventually we would do better. Many times we say to ourselves "someday we will do this/that". Such as someday I will wear hijab, someday I will offer salah, someday I will make sunnah salah, someday I will learn more surahs, someday I will learn Arabic, someday I will stop backbiting, someday I will stop clubbin', someday I will be kinder, etc. This list could go on for ever and ever.

BUT THE QUESTION IS: WHAT IF SOMEDAY NEVER COMES?

This could be the very last blog that we post or even the very last blog you read because our time has come! So what do we do? We live each moment likes it's our last. By this we don't mean wild out and "get it in". We mean strive to do what is fisabilillah and "go hard in this deen". We only have one shot and our time here is soooooo short in comparison to the akhirah(afterlife). On the day of judgment we will stand alone and be held responsible for ALL of our actions; good and bad. We can't say "Sister So-and-So talked me into it or Sister So-and-So did it too." We know what we are supposed to do and what we are not supposed to do, we have no excuses! Ignorance is no excuse we should be consistently learning from the cradle to the grave. If we are unsure about something, we should look it up and try to make sure that we are doing what is correct.

We still have many goals that insha' Allah we will be able to achieve but we will sincerely try every single day, hour and minute to do better. May Allah guide us all on al siratul mustaqeem- Ameen.

We must remember Inna lillaai wa inna ilayhi raji'oon(from him we came and to him we will return)

We kept this one short because we will be posting a more detailed video about this topic on YouTube in our next installment so insha' Allah subscribe(click the yellow button) if you haven't already. Here is the link for our YouTube. http://www.youtube.com/user/muslimah2muslimah

Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

Bridesmaids and Music at a Muslim Wedding???

We have been to many Islamic weddings and we have seen many different themes. We see the bride dressed in Indian dresses, traditional white gowns, Abayas, African gowns, some with the woman absent for the nikah (ceremony) and present for the walimah (reception/ marriage feast). The groom usually goes with the flow of the theme: tuxedo and tie for the traditional western theme, kurta suits for the Indian theme, Grande Buba for the African theme, and a thobe for the low-key Islamic theme.

Okay, so the question is; Which way is the Islamic way and how much time, energy and money should we put into our weddings? Should we have bridesmaids? Should we have groomsmen? Should we have a first dance and music? Should we provide alcohol for our non-Muslim guests? Should my dowry be big or small?

The Arabic word Walima (marriage feast) is derived from the root word Walam, which literally means to gather and assemble. The Arabs used it for a meal or feast where people were invited and gathered. Later, the term became exclusive for the wedding banquet.

The Arabs used different terms for the various feasts they enjoyed. For example: al-I’zar on the occasion of a child’s circumcision, al-Khurs for a marriage not ending in divorce, al-Wakira on building a new home, al-Naqi’ah when a traveller returns home, al-Aqiqah on the seventh day after childbirth, al-Ma’duba for a general meal without any specific reason, etc.

The marriage feast (walima) is a Sunna of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him & give him peace). It is an outward expression of gratitude and pleasure and a great means of publicising the marriage, which has been greatly encouraged.

Sayyiduna Anas ibn Malik (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Prophet Muhammad(Allah bless him & give him peace) saw a yellow mark on Abdur Rahman ibn Awf (Allah be pleased with) and said: “What’s this?” He replied: “I have married a woman with the dowry being gold to the weight of a date-stone.” The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “May Allah bless you (in your marriage), perform a Walima, even if it is only with a goat.” (Sahih al-Bukhari,no. 4872)

The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) himself provided a Walima after many of his marriages. He provided meat and bread on the occasion of his marriage with Zaynab bint Jahsh (Allah be pleased with her), Hays (a type of sweet-dish cooked with dates, cheese & butter) on the occasion of his marriage with Safiyya (Allah be pleased with her) and barley on another occasion. (See: Sahih al-Bukhari & Sahih Muslim)

Thus, it is a Sunna and strongly recommended to have a Walima.

The Time of Walima:

The scholars have disagreed as to the correct time of this Walima. There are many opinions. For example:

1) At the time of the marriage contract,

2) After the marriage contract and before consummation of marriage,

3) At the time of the wedding procession (bride leaving for her husband’s house) (Ibn Hajar, Fath al-Bari, 9/287)

However, the majority of the scholars (jumhur) are of the opinion that Walima is a meal that is prepared after the marriage has been consummated. This was the practice of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace), as explicitly mentioned in one narration.

Sayyiduna Anas ibn Malik (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that he was a boy of ten when the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) migrated to Madina. (He added): “My mother and aunts used to urge me to serve the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) regularly, thus I served him for ten years. When the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) passed away, I was twenty years old, and I knew about the order of Hijab more than anyone else, when it was revealed. It was revealed for the first time when the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) had consummated his marriage with Zainab bint Jahsh (Allah be pleased with her). The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) in the morning was a bridegroom, and he invited the people to a banquet. So they came, ate, and then all left except a few who remained with the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) for a long time….. (Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4871)

Sayyiduna Anas (Allah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) consummated his marriage with a woman (Zainab), so he sent me to invite people for a meal.” (Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4875)

The great Hadith master (hafidh), Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani (Allah have mercy on him) states:

“The Hadith of Anas (quoted above) is clear in determining that Walima is considered to be after the consummation of marriage.” (Fath al-Bari, 9/199. Also see: I’la al-Sunan, vol. 10, p. 11)

It is stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:

“The marriage banquet (walima) is a Sunna and there is great reward in it. And it is carried out when the marriage is consummated.” (al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya, 5/343)

Having said this, scholars mention that there is also scope in following the other opinions, thus if one had a Walima before consummation, it is hoped that one will gain the reward of Sunna.

How many days?
The Hanafi jurists (fuqaha) are of the opinion that, a banquet up to two days will be considered to be a Walima, after which it will no longer be considered a Walima.

It is stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:

“There is nothing wrong in inviting people the next day after consummation or the day after. After that, marriage and Walima celebrations will come to an end.” (5/343)

It has also been reported from the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) that he stated: “Walima on the first day is confirmed (haq), and on the second day, it is good (ma’ruf), and on the third day, it is showing off.” (Sunan Abu Dawud, no. 3738)

Although scholars mention that if there is a need, such as not being able to invite everybody on one day, then it will not be wrong to invite them on separate days.

Simplicity:

Finally, it should be remembered that, the simpler the Walima (and the marriage ceremony as a whole) is kept, the better it will be. At times, people spend thousands upon thousands in feeding people, a sum which can be used for other indispensable needs of the Muslims. And if the intention behind spending such an amount is to show-off, then this will be regarded a grave sin.

The idea here is to feed people with sincerity and simplicity. If one feeds people the simplest of meals but from the heart, then that is far better (and the food is also more enjoyable) than feeding them quality food, where the intention is not so sincere.

Sayyida A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “The most blessed marriage (nikah) is the one with the least expenses.” (al-Bayhaqi in his Shu’ab al-Iman & Mishkat al-Masabih).

Excerpts taken from: Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari Darul Iftaa

Najwa& Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

HIJABI RECESSIONISTA- FIND OF THE WEEK: The Maxi Skirt!!!

Okay, so we all know how trendy the "maxi-dress" has been this year and how for some of us, it has become a staple in our wardrobes... However, Muslimah2Muslimah has discovered a new trend this week which is called the "maxi-skirt"!!!

We know, we know... It is usually super hard to find non-frumpy long skirts, right? Well... we found it and all of these skirts can be found at Wet Seal for under $30.00... and that's including tax! We know it is getting hotter and these skirts are comfy, modest and breezy AND super cute! Think of all the many possibilities with these printed skirts! we are sure most of our readers have plenty of hijabs and long sleeved cotton shirts to match of with these skirts... If not refer back to our Hijabi-Rcessionista's in the past for hijabs! You can find these skirts at the following link: http://www.wetseal.com/catalog/category.jsp?categoryId=102&viewAmount=142&currentPage=1

Okay, ladies, happy summer and Happy Shopping!

Najwa & Nadira

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Muslimah2Muslimah: Interview With New Revert To Islam: Eva!!!

In Muslimah2Muslimah's experience of reverts to Islam, we think the transitions of one's thoughts, opinions, and behavior, in fact a whole transformation of one's perspective in life is very interesting. Eva is far from the ordinary….she exemplifies how thinking can take someone a long way. It's amazing how far a little common sense and knowledge can go. Eva is one our YouTube subscribers who became a Muslimah on of all days, Easter Sunday, masha'Allah!

The negative image presented about Islam since 9-11 here in the states has really given Islam a bad name due to the media as well as people's lack of understanding. The stereotypes about the treatment of women has been rampant in the media for many years with the Taliban and other "extremist" groups. We thought it would be interesting to interview Eva, who in the midst of all propaganda has warmly embraced Islam and get her Muslimah's Perspective on Islam...

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your name?

Eva: Evangeline meaning "good news"

Muslimah2Muslimah: What made you become interested in Islam?

Eva: I was really doing a lot of reading and researching about myself as an African woman, and the history of our people. I began researching history and culture and various traditions, holidays, and the symbolism of many things. And the more I learned, the more I realized that in the western world we have been taught a very self-destructive way of life mentally, physically, and spiritually. In reading and exploring new things, I came across Islam and what it taught. I realized that it mainly fell in line with the positive changes I was making in my life. After I saw the connection several times, I started to research it, and found peace in it.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What does your family think about your decision?

Eva: My mom is very supportive. She trusted my judgment because she knows I researched it thoroughly first. She didn't know much about it and was just interested in learning more. I haven't had any negative reactions yet, but I have a really big family so we shall see what happens! I am most nervous about telling my Grandmother, she can be judgmental at times, and make hurtful jokes or comments about things she doesn't approve of. Inshallah she will be understanding, and open minded, I will tell her when I see her around Mother's Day.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What types of reactions have you gotten from your friends or coworkers?

Eva: The total opposite of what I expected! There are a few older Caucasian ladies there, who I have heard make some very ignorant (racist) comments, so I was expecting to have to politely tell them off, if they were disrespectful. But they actually came to me basically telling me how ignorant they were about Islam, and that they wanted to know more. This became a dawa opportunity. Also one of them brought me a beautiful Qur'an! Inshallah, I will be a positive influence on their ideas about Islam.

Muslimah2Muslimah: How has Islam changed your life?

Eva: Before Islam, I was unsatisfied in life. I was going through some things that left me really unhappy. In turn I was seeking happiness from external sources, drinking, smoking, getting piercings, tattoos. It was like I was trying to drown out a voice that was telling me I wasn't happy. It gave me momentary satisfaction, but no real peace of mind. Islam gave me that peace of mind. It made it easier for me knowing I am living my life to attain an ultimate goal, so everything I say and do has a purpose.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What advice would you give to someone who is interested in Islam?

Eva: Don't be afraid. It can be scary to change your life, but when you put your faith in Allah, he will make it easy for you. Do your research, examine things with an open mind and heart.

Muslimah2Muslimah: Islamically, women are required to wear a hijab. Others say that you must also cover your face(niqab). What are your thoughts on this?

Eva: I understand the purpose of hijab. I like the level of respect I get when I wear it, there is definitely a difference, I also like that other Muslims can identify me. Niqab, I don't think is required. But I can understand the mindstate of someone who wants to go even further to protect their modesty. Its about the state of mind and your intentions.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your opinion on the common labels associated with Muslims ("terrorists", "extremists" , etc.)?

Eva: I look at it like this. Charles Manson believed he was Jesus and was killing people so thy could go to Heaven. Not a single person blamed Christianity for this. But when someone claims to be a Muslim and does a horrible act, the first thing they talk about is Islam. I think its not only racist, based on the fact that this religion is typically represented as one of people of color (although there are Muslims of all races alhumdulilah!) , but there is an illogical untruthful propaganda campaign against Islam in the west.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your view on the impression that many non-Muslims have that Islam oppresses the women and the women have no voice in their communities?

Eva: There are many places that identify as Muslim countries, and some of them do treat women unjustly. But this behavior is unlawful in Islam, the Qur'an dictates that not only are Muslim women to be treated equally, but many practices are in place solely for their benefit and protection.

Muslimah2Muslimah: The media tends to give very negative views on women and many non-Muslims base their views solely on this. What was your view on Islam and the treatment of women before you converted to Islam?

Eva: I only had one girl friend in high school who was Muslim. She is smart, funny, and has a great personality. So that made me realize that she wasn't that different than me or anyone else. I always thought she was really pretty too, but always dressed modestly, no make up, and I wondered why she wouldn't want to show off her beauty.

Muslimah2Muslimah: Has your view changed in any way?

Eva: Yeah because I understand that as a Muslima you don't lose your femininity, you can still be beautiful. There are just different guidelines. I have had a lot of fun shopping for appropriate hijab clothes. Its like a fun challenge to put together a look that's cute, expresses who you are, and is modest.

Muslimah2Muslimah: How did you feel the first time you wore hijab?

Eva: Nervous, really nervous at first. I was scared I would be treated differently. But all that subsided when I realized that different was good, and I got more respect this way, and plenty of respectful compliments. A few days ago it was 92 degrees, and I had on hijab, loose linen pants, and a long light cotton shirt. I noticed there were a lot of girls wearing very little walking by an older man who was giving them lewd looks, he didn't even look at me. I smiled inside because that's not the kind of attention I want.

~Insha'allah, everyone... please pray for Sister Eva and welcome her
into Islam by leaving her your encouragement and wisdom, insha'allah! We are very pleased with her decision as we know she is as well. Eva, may Allah bless you in all of your endeavors and may He grant you Jannatul Firdaus! Ameen!

Najwa & Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

The Muslimah Bikini... Would YOU Wear One???

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Question is, would you guys wear one??? Do you think it is cute or ugly? Is it modest enough,or would you want more coverage? Less coverage? Let us know!

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In Defense of Non-Hijabis

It had been ten years since she had set foot in a mosque. Being away in college had broadened her mind in many ways; one of them being her reconnecting with Islam. She had begun praying five times a day a month ago, and now felt ready to pray in public, at the university's Jumu'a prayer. She paused and stood a few feet away from the women's entrance. Taking a deep breath, she pulled the silk scarf out of her purse and tied it carefully on her head. Her ponytail stuck out a bit. She smoothed the creases on her long-sleeved beige shirt and tugged at the bottom of it to make it longer over her pants.

The prayer was great. She had never felt this sense of inner peace.

Afterwards, she tried mingling with the sisters, but nobody even looked her way. A few of them even pretended not to hear her greeting. The only sister who did talk to her said in a huff: "You know your prayer is not accepted in those pants and that tiny thing you pass for a Hijab. I suggest you get more Islamic knowledge and dress properly before coming back here." The words stung her like a million bumble bees. Too numb to respond or speak, she charged out of the hall. Never again would she associate with these people, she told herself. And never again would she return to Jumu'a.

Are you shocked reading about this incident? Don't be. It has been a reality in almost every Muslim community in North America. This harsh judgment and intolerance shown towards Muslim women who do not wear Hijab can lead to at least some Muslim women to become alienated from the Muslim community, and could lead to a complete loss of Islamic practice.
While Hijab is an obligation clearly ordained in the Quran and Sunnah, the above-mentioned method of its enforcement and encouragement is not Islamic, according to Muslim scholars, researchers and activists. Muslims have to start seeing the issue from a different perspective, they say.

SOME ARGUMENTS IN SUPPORT OF NON-HIJABI SISTERS
"I would say that the overwhelming majority of Muslim women I have met who don't cover and who believe in God, believe they should cover, but believe they're not ready yet," says Sharifa Alkhateeb, vice-president of the North American Council of Muslim Women, in an interview with Sound Vision.

This reality indicates there is a seed of faith that needs to be nurtured and encouraged. As well, it means these women need all the support they can get. Abdalla Idris Ali is a member of the Islamic Society of North America's (ISNA) Majlis Shura, which debates Islamic issues and establishes policy for the organization. He says what also has to be remembered is that many Muslim women are coming from cultures where the Hijab is not practiced, for whatever reason. These sisters should not be condemned. Rather, Islamic concepts like Hijab, should be explained to them.

Another possibility is that Muslim women who do not wear Hijab are coming from families which are either not practicing Islam, or are downright hostile to it. In this situation, "it's actually a celebration that a young Muslim woman wants to pray Jumu'a," says Kathy Bullock, who started wearing Hijab two weeks after she converted to Islam. "I think that's where the tolerance comes in."

Another reason some Muslim women may find Hijab difficult is because of the often negative ideas surrounding Hijab. For instance, that wearing Hijab kills marriage and job prospects. Muslim activists must seek to dispel such myths. "There needs to be a lot more support for the women who decide to cover," says Bullock, who completed a PhD. about The Politics of the Veil from the University of Toronto in January. Bullock also gives a chilling warning to those who condemn non-Hijabi Muslim women: "We might be wearing Hijab but we might be doing something incredibly wrong which cancels out the reward [for wearing it]." One of these things she mentions is arrogance.

WHY ARE SOME MUSLIMS SO SENSITIVE ABOUT THE HIJAB?
Some Muslims seek to condemn non-Hijabis out of their understanding of the Quranic injunction of enjoining the good and forbidding the evil. Yet, they fail to take the right approach in doing it, in accordance with the example of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him), which was one of kindness, gentleness and patience. Interestingly, some Muslim men and women who criticize non-Hijabi Muslim women seem to have different reasons for doing it and varying ways of approaching a sister who does not wear Hijab.

"Unfortunately on the brothers' side there is a push to make Hijab the marker of Islamic identity," says Bullock. She also emphasizes the hypocrisy of many Muslim men criticizing Muslim women who do not wear the Hijab, while they themselves wear no beards, images on their shirts, or ill-fitting jeans. These forms of dress are strictly prohibited for men in Islam. Yet, go to any Jumu'a or Jamaah prayer, and these forms of unIslamic dress can be easily seen. Also, the lowering of the gaze is rarely ever practiced.

"I think some of the men put too much emphasis on the women instead of looking at their own selves," she says. However, Alkhateeb thinks most of the men are less vigilant than the women about Hijab, partly because they figure the women are going to take care of it.
She argues that the majority of the Muslim men who are over concerned about with the issue of Hijab because they don't trust themselves sexually, and fear their own reaction to a woman who is not covered Islamically.

For women, weak self-identity and faith could explain the harshness shown towards non-Hijabi Muslimas. "It is so difficult to maintain the practice of covering, emotionally, psychologically on the job and in everyday life, you get so much negativity from other people that the reaction of most of the practicing women and activists is to develop a cocoon, a protective cocoon, and part of that protective cocoon is in continually, verbally and in other ways rejecting what is unlike yourself," explains Alkhateeb.

"And that is to shore up your own self-identity. I think that part of the reason they are so negative is because this is part of shoring up their own self-identity and because there is a hidden fear that if they let down their guard that they'll stop covering. And if they allow any space in their mind to alternative ways of thinking that their thinking will fall apart. And that means that the underlying precepts and concepts are not strong."

WHERE DOES HIJAB FIT ON THE ISLAMIC LADDER?
"While it is correct to say that Hijab is correct in the teaching of Islam we tend to forget that there are many other basic issues, why the over obsession?" asks Jamal Badawi, a member of the North American Fiqh Council.

Part of the reason some Muslims treat non-Hijabis so harshly is because of their lack of understanding about where the obligation of Hijab ranks on the Islamic ladder.
A more correct approach would be gradual and would mean implementing more important aspects of Islam, like Iman (faith), and praying five times a day before moving on to requirements like Hijab.

"We fail to see any Ayah (verse of the Quran) pertaining to Hijab in the entire Makkan revelation that was given to the Prophet, that's almost 13 years. The injunctions about more detailed aspects relating to the righteous Muslim community were revealed during the Medinan period. Some in the middle, and later part of that period," explains Badawi, "This is a revealing lesson for us because it shows that Allah knew in advance what injunctions He wanted to reveal," he adds. "Yet He delayed the revelation of those matters until many, many years of preparation on the level of Iman, submission to Allah, love of Allah and the sincere desire to voluntarily obey Allah and His Messenger. Once that base was established it wasn't difficult at all for the believing women to willingly abide by the injunctions of Allah. "

Badawi says this is similar to how the Islamic commandment forbidding intoxicants was introduced. "The same process of preparation took place to the point that when the final prohibition of intoxicants was revealed it wasn't difficult for men to abide by that willingly and immediately." He explains this was especially difficult for Muslim men, who were the ones reported more likely to consume alcohol than women at that time.
"Some well-intentioned Muslims seem to miss these lessons from the gradual revelation and become too legalistic to the point of doing more harm than benefit, notwithstanding their good intentions," adds Badawi.

WRONGLY USING THE "BASEBALL BAT" APPROACH TO THE HIJAB
"Muslims gain a little bit of knowledge and they want to run around with a baseball bat and beat people over the head with religion. That's exactly what [has] made many young people leave the mosque," says Alkhateeb. Using the right method to tell Muslim women about Hijab is crucial, just as it is in advising Muslims to implement any other requirement of the faith. "In the Prophet's whole life he led by encouragement not pressure," she says. "The way he behaved is the opposite of how most Muslims who are practicing Muslims behave towards each other in terms of giving advice. His way was not carrying around a religious baseball bat."
The thinker and writer, who has also been an activist for the last 35 years points out the "baseball bat" methodology is in full swing when many Muslims encounter non-Hijabis.
"Instead of inviting her and embracing her, they're immediately trying to think about what they can criticize her about," says Alkhateeb.

The Prophet also did not use"vigilantes" to impose a religious requirement like Hijab.
"When we deal with the Sunnah, we find that he never appointed vigilantes to go around to reinforce something that believing Muslim women were encouraged to do, or use any harsh words or actions to arrive at that desired situation or desired setting," says Badawi. "The approach that he followed which we should follow as our example was not to focus on issues like Hijab before Iman and psychological and spiritual preparation was in place." Badawi stresses inviting to Hijab and other Islamic requirements should be done in a way "that would motivate people to respect the moral values of society rather than simply forcing them to do so. In fact that goes back to the definition of Islam which is willing trusting and loving submission to Allah and obedience to His Messenger."

As an example, he cited an incident from the lifetime of the Prophet when a Bedouin man urinated in the mosque. When other Muslims saw this, they became very angry and wanted to rebuke him harshly. The Prophet on the other hand, stopped them and told the man gently what he was doing was incorrect. "That story is a classic example of the contrast between the attitudes of some well-intentioned Muslims who want to correct the wrong immediately and by any means and the approach of the Prophet of kindness, gentleness, persuasion and wisdom," he explains.

TEMPORARILY TOLERATING THE WRONG: A RULE OF USUL AL-FIQH
"The other aspect which is frequently missed is another rule of ordaining the good and forbidding the evil which was addressed by many scholars especially by the famous Shaykh ul Islam Ibn Taymiyyah," says Badawi. "The rule basically is that if in a given situation, attempting or trying to forbid the wrong may result in greater harm than benefit, then it is better to tolerate the wrong on a temporary basis."

"I think the classic example that Ibn Taymiyyah is referred to is when the Tatars invaded Muslim lands," explains Badawi. "He was told that some of these soldiers were drinking and that they should be stopped because this is part of forbidding the wrong yet, he advised that they should be left alone. His reasoning was that if those soldiers become sober, they might go on killing more people which is a greater harm than drinking".

"This is not a new rule," he emphasizes. "It is a basic rule in Usul al-Fiqh, the roots of Islamic law, that if some harm is inevitable then it is better to tolerate the lesser harm in order to prevent great harm." Badawi demonstrates how this rule could apply to a situation where a Muslim sister who does not wear Hijab attends Jumu'a prayer. "For example, if that sister is approached in a harsh way she may not come again which could hurt her and hurt the community at large. But if she's welcomed first and there's demonstration of brotherhood and friendship, then in a gentle and wise way that is suitable for her, she can be encouraged, then of course it would be a far better result than the confrontational, harsh approach."

INVOLVING NON-HIJABI SISTERS IN ACTIVITIES
"It's only by mixing in the right company that someone who is contemplating Hijab will have the strength and courage to make the final act," says Bullock. This means women offering friendship, as well as involving the sisters in Islamic activities through organizations like Muslim Students' Associations. Bullock notes that if a Muslim woman wants to do something for Islam she should be applauded "because she could be out there doing something else."
"Muslim organizations have a duty to say what is right and to invite in the best of manner women to cover and to support them when they do so but that doesn't mean individuals should be judgmental when women are not covering," she adds.

INVOLVEMENT, BUT NOT LEADERSHIP
However, Ali and Badawi draw the line of involvement of non-Hijabi Muslim women in Muslim organizations at the leadership level. They both say that any Islamically-oriented organization will select a person to be their leader who reflects their goals and aspirations. That means a Muslim woman who does not wear Hijab would not be selected because she is not fully following the precepts of Islam. Similarly, a Muslim man who is not fulfilling Islamic obligations like prayer, chaste behavior, etc. would also not be selected for a leadership position in such a milieu.
Badawi says this is not exclusion. Rather, it is the natural outcome in any milieu which aims to be Islamically-oriented. Its leadership will represent the precepts of Islam as much as possible.
"I'm against the term exclusion because if we apply the Islamic Shura (consultative) method then the leadership would emanate from the people, will be chosen by the people. And if the community or Islamic organization in a given setting are truly Islamically oriented, one would expect that the person chosen to be the spokesperson and symbol of that organization should reflect their conviction and values in the best possible way."

A POSITIVE APPROACH
Badawi gives an example of how he, "with my weaknesses" approached an aggressive non-Hijabi sister and the result. Many years back, during a visit to Australia, one sister, during one of his lectures, a non-Hijabi Muslim woman asked questions about Hijab, in a disapproving manner. He talked to her kindly and give information without harshness. Two years later, he returned to Australia, and a sister in full Hijab approached him, asking if he recognized her. He did not.
"I am the one who was arguing with you about Hijab two years ago," she told him. "But it is the approach and information that you gave me that helped me to study more, to educate myself and to make up my own decision and I am happy with what I decided."

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What Do You Think of This Picture!!!

What is your opinion of this picture? Keep in mind that in this picture, there is a skull with the Israel flag painted on it. Surrounding that is the flags of many of the western countries, (USA, Australia, Britain, France, Switzerland)... And then there is a sword with Allah (swt) and Rasul (saw) and then Muhammad(saw) written in Arabic... We just wanted your opinions on this, Insha'Allah...

Salaams,
Najwa & Nadira
Muslimah&Muslimah

The World is Becoming Less Christian!!!

America is a less Christian nation than it was 20 years ago, and Christianity is not losing out to other religions, but primarily to a rejection of religion altogether, a survey published Monday found.

Three out of four Americans call themselves Christian, according to the American Religious Identification Survey from Trinity College in Hartford, Connecticut. In 1990, the figure was closer to nine out of 10 — 86 percent.

At the same time there has been an increase in the number of people expressing no religious affiliation.

The survey also found that “born-again” or “evangelical” Christianity is on the rise, while the percentage who belong to “mainline” congregations such as the Episcopal or Lutheran churches has fallen.

One in three Americans consider themselves evangelical, and the number of people associated with mega-churches has skyrocketed from less than 200,000 in 1990 to more than 8 million in the latest survey.

CNN somehow manages to blame the decline in the number of Christians on the Republican Party.

Meanwhile, the percentage of Muslims has doubled since 1990 ...

United States

Through immigration and conversion, Islam is growing in the United States. Some estimates say that the number of Muslims will exceed 2 percent of the population by the year 2010. In 2005, 57% of United States residents polled viewed Muslims favorably, 22% unfavorably.

In 2005, the Council on American-Islamic Relations (CAIR) cited a 29.6 percent increase in harrassment of Muslims and an 8 percent increase in hate crimes over 2004. In 2008, CAIR reported a decrease in hate crimes, but a significant increase in civil rights violations.

During the recent US presidential campaign, Americans' attitudes toward Islam became apparent when certain people tried to label presidential candidate Barack Obama a Muslim. Most of us remember the emails that circulated accusing Obama of being a closet Muslim. Reactions to this were telling.

Obama's opponent, Senator John McCain, said he would vote for a Muslim if the person was a qualified candidate, however, John McCain's pastor, Rod Parsley, claimed that Islam is a "conspiracy of spiritual evil." A patter of similar villifications created a negative background noise to the entire campaign.

Colin Powell, a former US Army general and Secretary of State under President George W. Bush, said during his endorsement of Barack Obama for president, as a response to the attempt to label Obama a Muslim, "Is there something wrong with being Muslim in this country? The answer is no." Reaction to Mr. Powell's endosement and remarks was predictably split along party and liberal vs. conservative lines, indicating that Americans are still divided in their views about Islam.

Europe

According to the BBC, because of immigration and a higher-than average birth rate, the Islamic population in Europe is growing rapidly, and Islam is Europe's fastest growing religion. In western Europe, the population averages less than 5 percent of the overall population whereas in some eastern European countries Muslims make up 40 percent or more of the population.

According to the Pew Global Attitudes Project, western Europeans regard Christians, Jews, and Muslims twice as unfavorably as Great Britain, the United States and Canada. All in all, the western European attitude toward Muslims is right around 50/50: half favorable and half unfavorable.

Because Islamic immigrants form a cohesive, separatist entity within the host country, Europeans are concerned that Muslims will not integrate into their society. In particularly secularist states such as France, Germany and the Netherlands, this can be a source of conflict, as illustrated by the fact that more than 50 percent of those polled in each of these three countries favor banning Muslim head scarves in public schools.

There is a feeling among some Europeans that immigrants are being given civil rights over and above that of the natives.

The Middle East

According to the Pew Global Attitudes Project, Middle Eastern countries overwhelmingly favor Islam and look unfavorably upon Christians and very unfavorably upon Jews.

In Israel, about one in six citizens is Muslim, comprising about 16 percent of the population - a higher percentage than most European countries. Israel was not polled by the Pew Global Attitudes Project, and a thorough search did not yield statistics on Israeli feelings toward Islam, pro or con. About 35 Israelies convert to Islam every year. A New York Times Magazine article bore witness that Jewish Israeli youngsters harrass Muslim youngsters in West Bank settlements.

China and Indonesia

About fifty percent of people polled in China expressed an unfavorable view of all religions. Ninety-nine percent of Indonesians polled expressed a favorable view of Islam, while 76 percent expressed an unfavorable view of Jews, and 38 percent were unfavorably disposed toward Christians.

As part of the pre-Olympics clean-up in the spring of 2008, China accused their tiny Muslim minority of conspiring to commit terrorist acts, but no evidence was presented to validate this claim.

Indonesia is like a Middle Eastern country in its disposition toward religions. Therefore it is decidedly pro-Islam.

Russia

Russia has the most favorable view of Christians among those nations polled, and a favorable outlook on Jews, but a split view of Islam that is echoed everywhere but in the Middle East. Fifty-five percent of those polled viewed Islam favorably whereas 36 percent view Islam unfavorably. Similar percentages appear across the globe.

Freed from Soviet repression, Islam is blossoming in Russia. But ethnic Russians view the growth of Islam with worry that they are losing their national identity. This feeling, too, is echoed across the globe.

-Tom Rubenoff

A Black Imam Breaks Ground in Mecca!!!

RIYADH, Saudi Arabia

TWO years ago, Sheik Adil Kalbani dreamed that he had become an imam at the Grand Mosque in Mecca, Islam’s holiest city.

Waking up, he dismissed the dream as a temptation to vanity. Although he is known for his fine voice, Sheik Adil is black, and the son of a poor immigrant from the Persian Gulf. Leading prayers at the Grand Mosque is an extraordinary honor, usually reserved for pure-blooded Arabs from the Saudi heartland.

So he was taken aback when the phone rang last September and a voice told him that King Abdullah had chosen him as the first black man to lead prayers in Mecca. Days later Sheik Adil’s unmistakably African features and his deep baritone voice, echoing musically through the Grand Mosque, were broadcast by satellite TV to hundreds of millions of Muslims around the world.

Since then, Sheik Adil has been half-jokingly dubbed the “Saudi Obama.” Prominent imams are celebrities in this deeply religious country, and many have hailed his selection as more evidence of King Abdullah’s cautious efforts to move Saudi Arabia toward greater openness and tolerance in the past few years.

“The king is trying to tell everybody that he wants to rule this land as one nation, with no racism and no segregation,” said Sheik Adil, a heavyset and long-bearded man of 49 who has been an imam at a Riyadh mosque for 20 years. “Any qualified individual, no matter what his color, no matter where from, will have a chance to be a leader, for his good and his country’s good.”

Officially, it was his skill at reciting the Koran that won him the position, which he carries out — like the Grand Mosque’s eight other prayer leaders — only during the holy month of Ramadan. But the racial significance of the king’s gesture was unmistakable.

Sheik Adil, like most Saudis, is quick to caution that any racism here is not the fault of Islam, which preaches egalitarianism. The Prophet Muhammad himself, who founded the religion here 1,400 years ago, had black companions.

“Our Islamic history has so many famous black people,” said the imam, as he sat leaning his arm on a cushion in the reception room of his home. “It is not like the West.”

It is also true that Saudi Arabia is far more ethnically diverse than most Westerners realize. Saudis with Malaysian or African features are a common sight along the kingdom’s west coast, the descendants of pilgrims who came here over the centuries and ended up staying. Many have prospered and even attained high positions through links to the royal family. Bandar bin Sultan, the former Saudi ambassador to the United States, is the son of Prince Sultan and a dark-skinned concubine from southern Saudi Arabia.

But slavery was practiced here too, and was abolished only in 1962. Many traditional Arabs from Nejd, the central Saudi heartland, used to refer to all outsiders as “tarsh al bahr” — vomit from the sea. People of African descent still face some discrimination, as do most immigrants, even from other Arab countries. Many Saudis complain that the kingdom is still far too dominated by Nejd, the homeland of the royal family. There are nonracial forms of discrimination too, and many Shiite Muslims, a substantial minority, say they are not treated fairly.

“The prophet told us that social classes will remain, because of human nature,” Sheik Adil said gravely. “These are part of the pre-Islamic practices that persist.”

BLACK skin is not the only social obstacle Sheik Adil has overcome. His father came to Saudi Arabia in the 1950s from Ras al Khaima, in what is now the United Arab Emirates, and obtained a job as a low-level government clerk. The family had little money, and after finishing high school, Adil took a job with Saudi Arabian Airlines while attending night classes at King Saud University.

Only later did he study religion, laboriously memorizing the Koran and studying Islamic jurisprudence. In 1984 he passed the government exam to become an imam, and worked briefly at the mosque in the Riyadh airport. Four years later he won a more prominent position as the imam of the King Khalid mosque, a tall white building that is not far from one of the Intelligence Ministry’s offices.

Theologically, Sheik Adil reflects the general evolution of Saudi thinking over the last two decades. During the 1980s he met Osama bin Laden and Abdullah Azzam, a leader of the jihad against the Soviets in Afghanistan. He initially sympathized with their radical position and anger toward the West. Later, he said, he began to find their views narrow, especially after the terrorist attacks of Sept. 11, 2001.

Now he speaks warmly of King Abdullah’s new initiatives, which include efforts to moderate the power of the hard-line religious establishment and to modernize Saudi Arabia’s judiciary and educational establishment. He reads Al Watan, a liberal newspaper.

“Some people in this country want everyone to be a carbon copy,” Sheik Adil said. “This is not my way of thinking. You can learn from the person who is willing to criticize, to give a different point of view.”

His life, like that of most imams, follows a rigid routine: he leads prayers five times a day at the mosque, then walks across the parking lot to his home, which he shares with two wives and 12 children. On Fridays, he gives a sermon as well.

HE expected it to continue that way for the rest of his life. Then in early September he woke up to hear his cellphone and land line, both ringing continuously. Stirring from bed, he heard the administrator of the Grand Mosque leaving a message. He picked up one of the phones, and heard the news that the king had selected him.

Two days later he walked into a grand reception room where he was greeted by Prince Khalid al-Faisal, the governor of Mecca Province. Sheik Adil tried to introduce himself, but the prince cut him off with a smile: “You are known,” he said.

Next, Sheik Adil was led to a table where he sat with King Abdullah and other ministers. He was too shy to address the king directly, but as he left the room he thanked him and kissed him on the nose, a traditional sign of deference.

Remembering the moment, Sheik Adil smiled and went silent. Then he pulled out his laptop and showed a visitor a YouTube clip of him reciting the Koran at the Grand Mosque in Mecca.

“To recite before thousands of people, this is no problem for me,” he said. “But the place, its holiness, is so different from praying anywhere else. In that shrine, there are kings, presidents and ordinary people, all being led in prayer by you as imam. It gives you a feeling of honor, and a fear of almighty God.”

-Taken from the New York Times

Don't Hate Us Because We Are "Just Muslims"

Lately, Muslimah2Muslimah has been thinking a lot about the whole separation of Islam and how it divides the Ummah. What we mean by separate is all of these different sects... Sunni, Sufi, Shia,...

Then, within these groups you have sub-groups; Tablighi Jamaat, Jamaat-e-Islami, Qadris, Ismailis, Akhbaris, Naqshbandis, Shaykhis, Wahhabis and Salafis, to name a few.

Then, there are the many schools of Fiqh (or law): Hanafii, Shafi, Maliki and Hanbali.

Now, what does all of this leave our Prophet Muhammad (SAW)'s beloved Muslim Ummah with? Pure and utter confusion, arguments, division, chaos and everyone thinking that they are right about this or that. We debate each other about things in which we have no solid proof about like which hadith is fake or not, what the Qur'an REALLY means in this ayat or that, how old Aisha (RAH) was when she married the Prophet (SAW), that brother is not a real Muslim because he allws his wife to go to school and/or work, this sister is not a real Muslimah because she wears colors and *gasp* no niqab or gloves???.... and so on and so forth...

It is really sad and shameful how we act towards one another. Muslimah2Muslimah went to certain masjid in Atlanta last Ramadan (the most blessed month) with the intention of making Tawarih prayer with our fellow Muslim sisters and we found ourselves getting the cold shoulder from sisters literally moving away from us while in the ranks and not wanting to pray with us shoulder-to-shoulder.Why? Perhaps to pray with the other sister who looks more like them. Islam is such a beautiful religion but yet some of us make it appear so ugly with the all of the negativity and seclusion form other Muslims because they have different upbringings or read a different hadith book.

As for the different sects and Sunni this, Shia that... which sect was Prophet Muhammad a part of, because we could have sworn that he was JUST A MUSLIM?????? Insha'Allah let us know your thoughts on this very important subject.

MaSalaama,
Najwa&Nadira
Muslimah2Muslimah

Muslimah Must-Haves!!!

The Top 13 Muslimah Must-Haves:

1. Hijabs (Do plain as well as patterns to mix it up)

2. Long sleeve t-shirts (get them in every color you can find!)

3. Mid-thigh/knee-length dresses

4. Long skirts

5. Maxi-dresses

6. Wide leg jeans

7. Slacks

8. Cardigans / jackets

9. Shirt dresses

10. Flat shoes

11. Pins /brooches

12. Abayas

13. A good tailor!

Hijab How To

We received so many compliments on our hijab and questions on how we wear them, we decided to make a Hijab-How-To video. This video shows 4 different ways to wear your hijab that are simple, fly and can all be done with one scarf!

Inshallah this video is helpful and shows some new ways to rock hijab, Subscribe for Hijab-How-To Part 2!

Shukran(thanx) for all the support!!!!!!

Hijabi Recessionista: FIND OF THE WEEK- Fabulous Overgarments & Hijabs

Apologies for the delays with our FIND OF WEEK ladies, we have posted 2 finds for this week!!!!

The overgarments on this site are absolutely beautiful! The have plenty of different abayas and jilbabs as well as other accessories. The overgarments come in various different sizes and lengths. You can even tailor order a overgarment for an extra £5.00(roughly $7.00). The overgarment prices start at around £25.00($30.00) and go up from there. They have overgarments that can be pricey but every hijabi recessionista knows how to take advantage of a good sale, so be sure to check out their reduced prices.

Their overgarments can be found at:
http://www.al-hijaab.com/scripts/prodList.asp?idcategory=69


We found these pashminas from Hijabs Online in all colors ranging from $6.00 and up. They also have amiras, oblongs and kuwaiti and square style scarves. They also offer free shipping with every order!

Their scarves can be found at:
http://www.hijabsonline.com/


Happy Shopping!!!

Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

Muslim Boyfriend?????

Dating in Islam is an oxymoron, there is no such thing! It's like saying frozen hot chocolate. There are no boyfriends or girlfriends as far as Islam is concerned. This doesn't mean that it doesn't happen this just means that it shouldn't. So I know your like, if I can't date him how do I really get to know the brother that I want to marry?

Well I'm glad you asked, alhumdulilah Allah(swt) has given us guidelines to follow so that we can keep everything on a lawful note. So first things first make sure that you have your standards and know what you are willing to except in your mind first. If you meet a brother and he asks you for YOUR number, he might not be the brother for you. You want a brother who wants to do things the right way and has enough respect for you and himself from jump that he wouldn't even try you like that. It seems simple an innocent, just a phone conversation but even a conversation can lead you into things that you shouldn't do. You talk to the brother, you crack jokes, you start to feel comfortable with him and then he says "why don't we hang out and meet up sometime?". Now this can lead up to you spending time alone with him. If a brother is trying to spend time alone you, it's not a good look.


Whenever a man is alone with a women the shaytan makes the third. (Tirmidhi)


A Muslim man is still a man and eventually you may end up doing things that you know you shouldn't. Avoid this situation and you won't be tempted or end up making a decision that you regret. This is why you should have your Wali in place. Your Wali truly is your protection. If your a revert like me, your Wali can be your Imam or trusted brother in your community. He keeps that brother in line and makes sure that everything is done on the up and up.Not only that but we are women and once you start to like a brother you might catch feelings and not notice some of the red flags. Your Wali is looking out for your best interest and is not going to be blinded by how cute the brother is.

You can have a "sit down" with a brother with you Wali present and ask all of the very important questions(we posted a blog with plenty of questions to ask and questions that you should be prepared to answer). When you are asking these question make sure that you are being honest. This is your way of getting to know each other. Don't just say what you think the brother wants to hear. If he asks you if you can cook, don't say yes if can't even boil water! When you get married he's going to expect you to follow through on what you said. Don't say you wear overgarment and niqab if you don't because he's gonna want to know where all that is when you leave the house without hijab. Be honest so that both know what you are signing up for because once your married you have both signed on that dotted line.

Now if you want to have the "dating" experience you can out as long as you are chaperoned. This means you have your Wali present or someone who is looking out for your best interest. Maybe you feel uncomfortable going out with your father present, you could have another married couple, your brother, etc. chaperon your "date". What you shouldn't do is go out with your homegirl and her boyfriend and call them your chaperons. If they're not doing what they are supposed to be doing, how are they going to make sure that you are? Consider going to public places like restaurants, art exhibits, parks, places where you know other Muslims will be, etc.

We have to make sure that we think long term, dating is what we see everyday around us and it can be tempting. But in the long run you want to make sure you are doing things that are beneficial to you in this life and in the hereafter. The blessings that you will receive, inshallah, from doing things the right way will be well worth the wait.

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Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira
Muslimah2Muslimah

Questions to Ask your Potential Husband

This is a list of questions to ask your future spouse, you can pick and choose or ask them all. Also be prepared to answer many of these questions yourself. The most important thing is to be HONEST with yourself and with the brother, so that you both know what your getting into. Don't say yes of course I wear hijab if you don't because he's going to be looking at you crazy if your Not wearing it. KEEP IT 100%!!!!!!!

What are you expectations of marriage?
What are your goals in life? (long and short term)
Identify three things that you want to accomplish in the near future.
Identify three things that you want to accomplish, long term.
Why have you chosen me/other person as a potential spouse?
What is the role of religion in your life now?
Are you a spiritual person?
What is your understanding of an Islamic marriage?
What are you expecting of your spouse, religiously?
What is your relationship between yourself and the Muslims community in your area?
Are you volunteering in any Islamic activities?
What can you offer your zawj (spouse), spiritually?
What is the role of the husband?
What is the role of the wife?
Do you want to practice polygamy?
What is your relationship with your family?
What do you expect your relationship with the family of your spouse to be?
What do you expect your spouses relationship with your family to be?
Is there anyone in your family living with you now?
Are you planning to have anyone in your family live with you in the future?
If, for any reason, my relationship with your family turns sour, what should be done?
Who are your friends? (Identify at least three.)
How did you get to know them?
Why are they your friends?
What do you like most about them?
What will your relationship with them after marriage be?
Do you have friends of the opposite sex?
What is the level of your relationship with them now?
What will be the level of your relationship with them after marriage?
What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with your friends?
What are the things that you do in your free time?
Do you love to have guests in your home for entertainment?
What are you expecting from your spouse when your friends come to the house?
What is your opinion of speaking other languages in home that I do not understand? (with friends or family)
Do you travel?
How do you spend your vacations?
How do you think your spouse should spend vacations?
Do you read?
What do you read?
After marriage, do you think that you are one to express romantic feelings verbally?
After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in public?
How do you express your admiration for someone that you know now?
How do you express your feelings to someone who has done a favor for you?
Do you like to write your feelings?
If you wrong someone, how do you apologize?
If someone has wronged you, how do you want (s)he to apologize to you?
How much time passes before you can forgive someone?
How do you make important and less important decisions in your life?
Do you use foul language at home? In public? With family?
Do your friends use foul language?
Does your family use foul language?
How do you express anger?
How do you expect your spouse to express anger?
What do you do when you are angry?
When do you think it is appropriate to initiate mediation in marriage?
When there is a dispute in your marriage, religious or otherwise, how should the conflict get resolved?
Define mental, verbal, emotional and physical abuse.
What would you do if you felt that you had been abused?
Who would you call for assistance if you were being abused?
Do you suffer from any chronic disease or condition?
Are you willing to take a physical exam by a physician before marriage?
What is your understanding of proper health and nutrition?
How do you support your own health and nutrition?
What is you definition of wealth?
How do you spend money?
How do you save money?
How do you think that your use of money will change after marriage?
Do you have any debts now? If so, how are you making progress to eliminate them?
Do you use credit cards?
Do you support the idea of taking loans to buy a new home?
What are you expecting from your spouse financially?
What is your financial responsibility in the marriage?
Do you support the idea of a working wife?
If so, how do you think a dual-income family should manage funds?
Do you currently use a budget to manage your finances?
Who are the people to whom you are financially responsible?
Do you support the idea of utilizing baby sitters and/or maids?
Do you want to have children? If not, how come?
To the best of your understanding, are you able to have children?
Do you want to have children in the first two years of marriage? If not, when?
Do you believe in abortion?
Do you have children now?
What is your relationship with your children now?
What is your relationship with their other parent?
What relationship do you expect your spouse to have with your children and their parent?
What is the best method(s) of raising children?
What is the best method(s) of disciplining children?
How were you raised?
How were you disciplined?
Do you believe in spanking children? Under what circumstances?
Do you believe in public school for your children?
Do you believe in Islamic school for your children?
Do you believe in home schooling for your children?
What type of relationship should your children have with non-Muslim classmates/friends?
Would you send your children to visit their extended family if they lived in another state or country?
What type of relationship do you want your children to have with all their grandparents?
If there are members of my family that are not Muslim, that are of different race or culture, what type of relationship do you want to have with them?


Happy question asking!

Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

The Power of Music

This subject has been on my mind a lot lately. Inshallah this will be very brief and just a few of my thoughts. I'm not going to get into whether or not music is haraam. There are plenty of different viewpoints on that: it's haraam, its halal if its only drums, is it cool if it's Islamic i.e. nasheed or groups like Native Deen.

A little background on my history with music. Okay so music has always been a big part of me and my life. My parents were big jazz fans and my name(real name) was inspired by Billie Holiday. Music has always had a deep emotional connection with me whether it's joy, sadness, anger etc. I have listened to ALL genres of music: classical, metal, pop, hip hop and jazz to name a few. I moved to Atlanta and was exposed to a whole new type of music that at first I was like this music is crazy and then later grew on me. Recently I have relocated to the sticks and music is just not that big a part of my life anymore. I don't watch the shows like TRL and 106th and park anymore, maybe because I'm older now and just can't get into or maybe because my mind state has just changed. I hardly listen to music anymore and if I do it's only in the car. I find that when I hear songs now I have no idea who the artist is and when I hear songs I used to listen to the connection is no longer there.

So I say all this to say that I've noticed that since I'm not listening to music as much I find myself listening to more quran and lectures online. Instead of looking up different artist on YouTube I'm looking up subjects like hijab, marriage, salah, surahs, etc. When I think about the number of lyrics that have been committed to my memory over the years its crazy to me! If I knew as many lyrics as surahs and ayas I could probably be hafiz by now. I view MOST music as a distraction from the siratal mustaqeem be it subtle or in your face. Look at the song titles that our out: I kissed a girl, My girl got a girlfriend, Juicebox, I'm in love with a stripper, Ms. independent and many more. Then to go along with the songs we have music videos which have a strong effect on how young women view themselves particularly in hop hop and pop. Many studies have been done on the negative effects of music videos and how they shape young girls self images.

So I'm not judging or saying stop listening to it now! I'm just saying if you listen to music(myself included) think about the effects mainstream music has and how much space it takes up in our minds that could be filled with Quran, ahadith, knowledge, etc.

Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira
Muslimah2Muslimah

Hijabi Recessionista FIND OF THE WEEK: FREE Abaya!

A wonderful group of sisters from the Middle East have decided to give every Muslimah they possibly can A NEW ABAYA FOR FREE. May Allah grant them Jennatul Firdous, Ameen! Your financial position doesn't matter. Rich or poor, you can still benefit from this opportunity, especially our new convert/revert sisters and sisters who live in places where Abayat are hard to find.



All abayat are brand new, black, and simple/plain (no designs at ALL). Don't let your size discourage you from ordering. They have up to XXXL sizes and if you're petite, we can send you the smallest size
available & you can go to a seamstress to sew it to your size.



The sisters have collected money to help cover the shipping/handling costs in order to ship the abayat to sisters. However, these funds are quite limited. Therefore, we humbly request that anyone who can afford to cover the cost of shipping kindly do so. This will enable other sisters, who can't financially afford it, to receive a free abaya as well. Shipping costs will be $12.



If you're interested in receiving a free abaya, please reply back to either the YouTube account: mujahida7861, and she can forward the messages to the moderator of the group; or if you have a yahoo account, you can join the following group, and send a message to the moderator at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MEEEM/ :

-Name

-Address

-Desired Abaya Size (S, M, L, XL, XXL, XXXL or measure your bust/hip/height) -- the best thing would be to send your measurements

-Also, indicate if you'll pay for the shipping costs

-OPTIONAL: Tell them about yourself! How you heard about them(Muslimah2Muslimah)? Languages you know? Wear hijab?
Niqab? Khimar? Marital situation? Mommy? New to Islam? This will enable us to send you extra items if they're available (books about Islam, marriage in Islam, hijabs, niqabs, etc.) This info is optional! You do NOT have to include it to get a free abaya.



All they ask is two things. First, that you make dua for them. Second, if you benefit from this please email us so we can keep going. Your words & encouragement let them know to continue this project. If they don't get any replies or benefits, then they will try to find something else to do for the sake of Allah that will help muslimahs.



The Fine Print:

*They ask that you do NOT order these abaya for a profit! Fear Allah! If you are going to sell these abayas, please do NOT order because they do NOT approve this. Of course they can't track who does this but Allah is Al-Baseer (The One who sees everything) & His punishment is worse than anything we can do so please fear Allah and do NOT abuse these sister's kindness!

*If you decide to pay shipping, this will be done by reimbursing us with a cashier's check, money order, or cash for the amount of $12 (twelve dollars) AFTER you have received the abaya.

* Right now they are only able to ship to North America but if you are anywhere else in
the world, reply back & they will see what they can do.

*They accept no returns! If the abaya doesn't fit you, pass it along to a sister whom it does.



Let's help our fellow sisters in Islam dress appropriately! Spread this message!

Happy ordering!
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

Help a Muslim Sister empower other girls its SO easy!

Salaams Muslimahs!

Jenna Evans is competing in a video essay competition called whoinspiresu.ca. The grand prize is $10,000 and she plans to use the money to put on an empowerment convention for young women in Canada.

She NEEDS YOUR SUPPORT and YOUR VOTES. I am requesting all of you to PLEASE join her facebook group:
http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#/group.php?gid=50938102275

and to PLEASE vote for her video (video #5) at:
http://www.whoinspiresu.ca/whoinspiresu/whoinspiresu.html

Spread the word and vote daily until March 31. Let's help empower other girls and show off the Muslimah spirit! If we don't help and support each other, who will?

We have to plug ourselves to so join our facebook group: http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#/group.php?gid=50938102275 and suscribe to our youtube page: http://www.youtube.com/user/Muslimah2Muslimah

Asalaamu alaikum
Muslimah2Muslimah

Yo!!!! She has some sexy ears?????!!!!!!

Okay so I've posted a few videos on our YouTube page, well three to be exact(not that many) and I've been getting a lot of positive feedback. However some people have been coming at me about having my ears out. I didn't know my ears had soooooo much power to entice! I feel like I'm making steps in the right direction, sometimes there baby steps of fury but there steps none the less. I've come along way since this time last year, alhumdulilah!

I know that proper hijab involves a lot. It's not just throwing a scarf on your head and keepin it movin. I've seen "hijab" in many forms and worn many myself such as: the ears out, the head wrap, overgarment, khimar with shorts(saw this, didn't do it myself) and niqab. For a while there I even felt that if I put a wig on and my hair was covered it was cool. Actually I knew it was still wrong but somehow it made me feel better about not wearing hijab. I think hijab starts on the inside, correction I know hijab starts on the inside. I'm not gonna put anyone on blast but I know sisters who wear overgarments, khimar and niqab and they wild out more than some sisters I know how are jummah hijabis only. The piont I'm making is you have to first know why you are covering and then enter into a covering mindstate. This means you watch your tongue, your interactions and your thoughts. So make your intentions %100 for the sake of Allah and go from there.

Prophet Muhammad(saw) said, "[Ihsan is] to worship God as though you see Him and if you cannot see Him, then indeed He sees you." (Al-Bukhari and Al-Muslim).

I know that I should cover my ears and inshallah I will get to that point soon and honestly, I do appreciate the reminders. We all need reminders sometimes. Let me know what you think.....

Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira
Muslimah2Muslimah

PS. I think the reason I struggle with this so much is I think earrings really complete and outfit. Even if your just wearing jeans and tee, throw some fabulous earrings on and tell me that's not an upgrade!!! lol Not an excuse I know, I'm working on it.

Shot out to Aneesah, who put me onto the upgrade of fabulous earrings!!

To pluck or not to pluck... that is the question!!!

Okay, so I was talking to my sister-in-law and also got inspired by a comment on one of my favorite blogs called "The Life of a Hijabista". Now in this blog, the sister was talking about how she learned how to thread her eyebrows. Also, my sister-in-law was told by one of her friends that women are forbidden to pluck, thread, shave, wax, burn off (okay, I'm taking it far with that one, lol)... basically grooming eyebrows are unlawful in Islam. Now, I have personally heard it from all angles. I've heard people say everything from this scholar to this sheikh to that hadith or ayat of Qur'an about whether a woman is or is not allowed to alter the shape of her brows.

Now personally, I have been getting my bi-weekly eyebrow wax since I was 16 years old. I know that I happen to have darn near a uni-brow otherwise and absolutely feel just pure mannish without having nice, shapely, feminine brows. Not to mention the fact that I think I might scare my husband by looking like the pic on the top left!!! Islam is my religion that I love so much and has been since birth. Sometimes I feel as though people take it a bit far to the left side of this and hardly ever come up with any valuable proof, or dalil regarding certain matters. I have no intention of purposely defying what Allah makes halal or haram but I would like to hear your opinions regarding this matter.

I think wearing a hijab and clothing that does not show off the shape of my body is taking a huge step. Not to mention not wearing polish, perfume (as some say), high heels (as some say) or wearing makeup (as some more say, lol). Now after I am stripped of all of my feminine vices, can I not just go and enjoy having my big, manly eyebrows waxed??? Am I asking too much here??? Okay, sorry... Comments please?

As-Salaamu-Alaikum,

Najwa

Hijabi Recessionista: FIND OF THE WEEK: The Muslimah Nail Polish!!!

Who doesn't love a good mani-pedi? But whats the point when you know that you're not supposed to wear polish. We love the look of manicured nails and have also found it hard to let those acrylics and polish go but alhumdulilah we have found an alternative! We've all seen henna on nails which has the classic red-orange color which you may not want to wear all the time. You might what to keep up with the trends and maybe try a black, green or just a simple pink. No matter what color you want, you can find it in a nail stain on this site: http://www.hennaking.com/nailstain.htm

The nail stains are $14.95, which may seem a little pricey but it will last a lot longer than your average polish. So your nails can look right and your wudu is still valid. Think about it: a mani-pedi can cost at least $50.00 per month! You can be creative and mix colors and patterns or keep it simple. If you want the shine like a polish lightly buff your nails & you get the same appearance. Keep in mind that it is a stain, so you will have what ever color you choose for a while. This is the best invention since the shirt-dress!!! Well anyhow, we are definitely excited!

Happy Shopping,
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Nadira & Najwa

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Muslimah Social Lives....avoid the dunya

As muslimahs in the West, some of us are stuck between two worlds, in a sense. We live in a predominantly non-muslim society that enjoys many of the things which are forbidden in Islam. Dating, partying, drinking, doing drugs, fornication, skimpy clothing, explicit lyrics in music, cursing and overall bad behavior has become the norm here in the west. Those of us who were raised in an Islamic household find ourselves loving our religion and knowing the truth, yet reverting to and enjoying the easy, fast life in the West. Those of us who are converts to Islam may find the transition difficult at first and difficult to maintain.

As muslim girls and women, we have even greater expectations then our male counterparts to be the consummate muslim woman in every facet of the word. Meaning we are expected to look, smell, and in some instances even sound like the perfect muslim woman. What I mean by looking like is, of course, the Islamic dress. By smell, I mean some people saying that muslimahs are not allowed to wear perfumes. By sound I am talking about some people's perspective on whether or not a woman should speak quietly or even disguise their voices around men.

When we put all of these things in mind, we now have a woman who has the knowledge of how she should behave in society and how she may desire to behave. Some feel as though as long as they are wearing their khimars that they should be able to go anywhere they please. Also, they feel as though they can date as long as there is no fornication involved and wear wigs on their heads as long as their heads are covered. The prophet(saw) said:

"Allah (swt) has cursed both the Wasilah and the Mustawsilah (meaning the wig-wearer and the wig-maker.

So " covering" your hair with a wig is not an option. Wearing your khimar is not only a source of protection it is also a constant reminder. If you are considering going somewhere are being around people were you can't wear your khimar because it wouldn't be appropriate, then these are the places and people you should avoid.

It's important that we try our best not to get caught up in the dunya. While the clubs and partying may seem tempting, they ultimately lead us further and further away from Allah(swt). Our time in this world is very limited and we will be faced with many tests. The pleasures of the dunya will be very tempting because of the way our society portrays them. In television shows, commercials and magazines these short term pleasures are portrayed as glamorous and the women leading these lives seem happy. This sort of lifestyle will not provide you lasting rewards. Shaytan tempts us with this lifestyle and Allah(swt) has warned us:

" Follow not the footsteps of Shaytan. Verily! He is to you a plain enemy" in Surah
2:208.

Consider options available to you such as hanging out with your girlfriends, going to the movies, going out to eat and attending Islamic functions. There are many outlets for what we may call "halal socializing" which can be found through the Muslim Student Association http://www.msanational.org/ at your local college or university. Also, there is the Islamic Circle Of North America http://www.icna.org/ and The Islamic Society of North America (I.S.N.A.) http://www.isna.net/. Many of our local masjids have plenty of activities for young muslims. Try to be more involved with masjids in your area. This is a great way to meet new muslims in your age range with similar interests. In my opinion I find it is best to socialize with other muslims as opposed to non-muslims for the simple reason that you won't be as tempted to do un-islamic things when